Is this standard in the dating game?

[LikeYouWantIt]

Matched with someone on online dating. Both mid-30s. We've been chatting for literally less than 24 hours and he's already asking me to meet for coffee tomorrow. Like??? I literally don't know you from Adam. Shouldn't we chat for a week or so, and actually establish that we're not axe murderers before committing to meeting up in person?

Or is this normal in the online dating world, and I'm just being overly cautious?

He's already asked for my number so we can talk on WhatsApp, which I agreed to (giving him my "spare" sim number), and I've just had a notification pop up "This contact is on Snapchat" which is another red flag for me.

But, is it normal to meet up with someone so soon?

I dont want to be texting for weeks and weeks because then you generally never meet up!! But i do want to text for long enough that their online persona makes me feel safe and that it would be worth meeting up

And as someone else said, remember to stay safe. I know some men see them picking you up as being "gentlemanly", but if they dont respect i dont want them to know where I live yet, then they're not for me anyway.

But chatting to him for a week wouldn’t make sure he wasn’t an axe murderer. There’s only so much you can learn over text.

I don’t think there’s a right or wrong way, but I can certainly see the logic behind “let’s meet for coffee pretty quickly and establish if there’s any face to face chemistry/attraction, rather than text for ages only to discover we don’t like each other face to face”

This is exactly right. With OLD the first date is for testing the water. Over expectations on date one is why a lot get disillusioned with online dating I reckon. Get it done ASAP

Thank you for your advice, everyone. We actually ended up chatting on the phone on Monday night and again last night. He seems like a pretty decent guy so we've arranged to meet tomorrow.

I would exchange messages for two or three days and then suggest a coffee, it’s much better to meet someone quickly so you know
if you are compatible, rather than wasting 2 or 3 weeks to find that they just want to be penpals or simply aren’t your cup of tea.

Meet somewhere public, middle of the day and you’ll be fine.

Id only move to WhatsApp after the first meeting

Update if anyone is interested. We went on the date and it went fairly well, I thought. Conversation flowed and there were no awkward silences.

We exchanged a couple of messages when I got home, and he was basically hinting to come round to mine to "watch a movie". I declined.

No messages yesterday. Today he's messaged asking what my plans are tonight. I said I was out with friends (already told him I had this planned, but maybe he forgot). Again, he's asked if I fancy a "movie night" tonight.

I'll be throwing this one back, I think.

Haha marks for effort: 9/10
marks for subtlety : between 0-2 depending on whether he actually used the words ‘Netflix & chill’ 😂

Haha he didn't actually say "Netflix and chill", but there was nothing subtle about what he was asking 😂

Aw I'd be replying that maybe going to the cinema isn't the best place for a 2nd date as you won't be able to chat to each other...

:)

I didn’t want to talk for weeks when I was on dating apps, but I didn’t meet anyone before a week, reason for this is I like to know if anyone displays any of my dealbreakers.

The majority failed on the mentioning sex one.

Some people prefer to meet asap there isn’t right or wrong.

Honestly some of them so predictable and think they’re being subtle.

I think I’d actually have more respect if they just asked ‘so you up for a shag next date?’