He doesn't want to have sex

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He used to dress up for his ex girlfriend and had made things special for her that was 3 years ago. We had sex once 2 years ago then broke up and got back together recently. He doesn’t really want to have sex with me if I try and get him in the mood he pushes me away (not physically) and I tried sending him naughty photos but he told me to never send photos like that again.
I feel pushed away and don’t know how I can live in a sexless relationship

He's not in to you he has no interest in you you just a stand in somewhere for him to be a sponger.
Tell him to leave and move on.

That's ok OP, you don't have to live like this - but you also need to accept that you can't make him be the person you want him to be.

Having very low self esteem makes you very vulnerable. You're desperate for love and attention and nasty creeps can sense it from a mile off. You need to work on your self esteem and be happy on your own and then you'll be in a much better position to have a healthy relationship.

You're only 20, write this one off. Message him to say it's not working for you and then block him on everything. Stay away from men for a while and work on yourself. Focus on education and career for now.

Why are you with him? He doesn’t say nice things to you and he’s not attracted to you. Get rid! At 20, there were will plenty of other opportunities out there for you

He's not really a boyfriend is he? It sounds like he had sex once to shut you up/get you on the hook - it's your first boyfriend so you don't know any better. But he definitely doesn't want to have sex again, he doesn't find you attractive and has told you so, he doesn't even seem to like you very much.

It sounds like a "beard" relationship. He may be gay or asexual.

I would take what he's said about his ex with a pinch of salt. I've a feeling she didn't see much action either and maybe that suited her.

Why did you break up the first time by the way? And why/how did you get back together.

You sound very innocent. Trust me, dump this bloke and leave him to your issues. There are loads more fellas who'll find you attractive and will be delighted to shag you if that's what you want. You're only 20 and will have so many options, honestly.

The reasons are irrelevant. The fact is that this isn’t working so definitely end this immediately.

If there’s two people and their ages range from 20 to 26 it’s probably fair to assume one is 20 and one is 26…

It was just funny phrasing that’s all, so was kind of teasing. But she did then reply to say she is 20 and he is 26 - and I think it’s relevant that it’s that way around.

You clearly have low self esteem. Comparing how your bf was with his ex is not going to help. It is unclear under what circumstances you got back together, because it clearly isn't a physical thing for him. Are you actually dating? Given your young age, you certainly seem to be taken in by him. But you don't 'have to' live like this. Just break up. Don't get caught up with such a negative relationship. Break free and work on yourself- confidence and what you really value in a partner.