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Unsure where i stand with this girl?

29 replies

Loverboy2223 · 18/06/2025 11:23

So i sent a girl a dm on insta she followed me back and we started talking. We didn't really say much till she suggested i take her number and we chat on whatsapp. We did and without wasting time i asked her if we could meetup. She said we could meetup anytime. I then forgot about our plans but last weekend i messaged her when i found myself sleeping by my friend who doesn't stay far from her. We met up late at night and had a make out sess behind my bros house. We had a really chill vibe and i really liked her goofy personality. We were very touchy and made a lot of jokes. I walked her home and we kissed one last time. Later that night she did send me a message about her having hikkies on her neck lol but thats the last time we spoke. During the meetup we did discuss her sleeping over by me but plans aren't going to work since my parents aren't leaving anymore. I feel like sending her a message saying i wanna see her again but i also dont want to come of as desperate or something. I think i am very insecure and scared of getting hurt due to my last relationship. What do you guys think do i stand a chance and how should i ask her if she wants to chill again?

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IDespairOfTheHumanRace · 18/06/2025 15:43

I think you need to mature a little and stop acting and writing like a young teen! That is all...

Planesmistakenforstars · 18/06/2025 16:04

I'm curious how American teenagers find a UK parenting site. There must be a subreddit where you'll get better advice from your peers. Failing that, good advice is usually to just talk to her.

SunsetCocktails · 18/06/2025 16:14

Ugh this site is really going downhill
Is nowhere safe from teenage boys 😒

waitingforlifeonmars · 18/06/2025 16:54

seriously, how did you find this site?
1/ hickies are vile, why would you deliberately bruise someone, is it a “claimed” branding thing?
2/ rent a hotel room, if you both just want sex, rent a cheap motel.
3/ how the hell would total strangers know where you stand with a girl we don’t know? ask her where you stand? Tell her what you would like from the relationship- if it doesn’t match, you’ll know.
4/ communication and respect is what it’s all about.

GuevarasBeret · 18/06/2025 17:01

If you don’t want to be hurt in life after your last relationship then don’t date or have relationships. Being open to being hurt through being open is part of the deal.

Hickies are gross, and actually really off putting. They aren’t funny at all, they are embarrassing to have and embarrassing to see. Why would you do that to someone?

Lovetoplan2 · 19/06/2025 20:01

Just message her with a plan to meet. Life is too short to worry about rejection. May be suggest doing something nice together. Good luck!

vodkaredbullgirl · 19/06/2025 20:02

Grow up, not that you will come back.

August1980 · 19/06/2025 20:11

Ah! Thought it was just me that couldn’t decipher the code!!!

Thalia31 · 19/06/2025 20:26

Loverboy2223 · 18/06/2025 11:23

So i sent a girl a dm on insta she followed me back and we started talking. We didn't really say much till she suggested i take her number and we chat on whatsapp. We did and without wasting time i asked her if we could meetup. She said we could meetup anytime. I then forgot about our plans but last weekend i messaged her when i found myself sleeping by my friend who doesn't stay far from her. We met up late at night and had a make out sess behind my bros house. We had a really chill vibe and i really liked her goofy personality. We were very touchy and made a lot of jokes. I walked her home and we kissed one last time. Later that night she did send me a message about her having hikkies on her neck lol but thats the last time we spoke. During the meetup we did discuss her sleeping over by me but plans aren't going to work since my parents aren't leaving anymore. I feel like sending her a message saying i wanna see her again but i also dont want to come of as desperate or something. I think i am very insecure and scared of getting hurt due to my last relationship. What do you guys think do i stand a chance and how should i ask her if she wants to chill again?

How old are you???

ArtfulDenimSheep · 19/06/2025 20:27

I think that most of the replies to this teenage boy are rather unkind. Maybe he saw Mumsnet as a Mum being able to offer advice if he didn't want to talk to his Mum and I don't blame him if it was too embarrassing to do so. I must admit I had never heard of hickies. Used to call them love bites back in the day, but have never liked seeing them on someone. I took think that this teenager should talk to the girl, just like many on here have said. I think it is quite brave of him to post on Mums net.

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Loverboy2223 · 19/06/2025 20:31

Thanks for being kind i dont have many people to talk to and thought this site would be helpful. Im scared of getting rejected since i have been all my life but im going to take your advice and speak to her.

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ArtfulDenimSheep · 19/06/2025 20:45

Hope that it goes well. Please let us know what happens. I'm sorry that you have been rejected in the past and that you don't really have anyone to talk to. I get why you came on here. You seem a sensitive soul and there is nothing wrong with that at all. Hope this girl will like you for who you are. Best of luck with this.

GlomOfNit · 19/06/2025 21:01

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Nikki7506 · 19/06/2025 22:47

I have no idea if you are for real, but just reach out........maybe not instantly but don't wait too long!........getting hurt is the price we pay for love........regret the chances you took, not the chances you lost 💖💖

Newnamehiwhodis · 19/06/2025 22:52

No cap, this is skibbidy toilet

Missj25 · 19/06/2025 23:51

Loverboy2223 · 19/06/2025 20:31

Thanks for being kind i dont have many people to talk to and thought this site would be helpful. Im scared of getting rejected since i have been all my life but im going to take your advice and speak to her.

Hey OP , Pay no heed to the mean mom’s , the majority of us are actually nice 😊…
Talk to her , least you’ll know ..
Good luck , I hope it works out for you ..
No one likes to be rejected , so I understand why you would be afraid of it , & everyone has been rejected at some point in their life , so remember that too ..
Hopefully , she will feel the same 🤞😊

Original poster
Loverboy2223 · 19/06/2025 23:57

Just want to thank you and everyone else who's been helpful or trying to help me. I did send her a message and she said she'd try to come. I am unsure if she's feeling the vibe or trying to say no but is unsure of how to do it. But i do feel much better now that i told her id like to see her again its like some weight of my shoulder. Whether she decides to come see me or not is up to her i cant choose for her but now i know i tried thanks once again

OP posts:
Missj25 · 20/06/2025 00:06

Loverboy2223 · 19/06/2025 23:57

Just want to thank you and everyone else who's been helpful or trying to help me. I did send her a message and she said she'd try to come. I am unsure if she's feeling the vibe or trying to say no but is unsure of how to do it. But i do feel much better now that i told her id like to see her again its like some weight of my shoulder. Whether she decides to come see me or not is up to her i cant choose for her but now i know i tried thanks once again

🙌 😊 🤞

Planesmistakenforstars · 20/06/2025 07:54

Good luck OP. The best things to do are to be honest when you like someone and respectful when they don't feel the same way, but you should also receive those things back. If someone is flakey or playing games, then move on - they are not worth it. Women can find giving a direct rejection difficult, because some men become angry at that, and we don't know which ones they will be, so I appreciate it can be hard for men to sometimes know where they stand if it seems like a "maybe." But as a general rule if she brushes you off, makes excuses or flakes out more than once, take that as a no, keep your chin up, and move on to someone who who will be honest with you too.

Snakebite61 · 20/06/2025 10:38

Loverboy2223 · 18/06/2025 11:23

So i sent a girl a dm on insta she followed me back and we started talking. We didn't really say much till she suggested i take her number and we chat on whatsapp. We did and without wasting time i asked her if we could meetup. She said we could meetup anytime. I then forgot about our plans but last weekend i messaged her when i found myself sleeping by my friend who doesn't stay far from her. We met up late at night and had a make out sess behind my bros house. We had a really chill vibe and i really liked her goofy personality. We were very touchy and made a lot of jokes. I walked her home and we kissed one last time. Later that night she did send me a message about her having hikkies on her neck lol but thats the last time we spoke. During the meetup we did discuss her sleeping over by me but plans aren't going to work since my parents aren't leaving anymore. I feel like sending her a message saying i wanna see her again but i also dont want to come of as desperate or something. I think i am very insecure and scared of getting hurt due to my last relationship. What do you guys think do i stand a chance and how should i ask her if she wants to chill again?

How old are you? 7?

99problems99 · 20/06/2025 10:41

What the fuxk did I just read

Original poster
Loverboy2223 · 20/06/2025 10:42

I totally understand. I love honesty so i hope she's honest with me so i dont waste me or her time

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Loverboy2223 · 20/06/2025 11:06

I wish i was those were happy days

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StarCourt · 20/06/2025 13:15

am i in a parallel universe?

Pollqueen · 20/06/2025 14:10

Ahhh this takes back to my youth. No SM just meeting up with some random bloke and snogging each other's faces off and then the angst of will I see him again etc. Happy days Grin

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