My husband got really mad for how much money I have spent in the last two months. I tried to explain what my large expenses were, but he didnt want to hear it and just tells me how I dont appreciate how hard he works (im a SAHM) and get f-ed. I do think I could cut back, but it is hard because i but the large majority of food and household items like cleaning supplies, paper towels, etc for our family of 5, i buy EVERYTHING the kids need from school supplies, clothes, birthday gifts, sports fees, etc, i buy ALL the pet food (we have 4 pets) and pay all the vet bills which this year has been a lot because we got 2 puppies. Anyway, i decided to add up all my spending for the year and then all of his spending for the year and I only spent about $10k more than for the whole year. This is what, like $800 more than him each month? Am I wrong for thinking i should be spending more than he does if Im the one covering all these expenses? I almost feel like my spending should be significantly more than his since he only really buys for himself and Im buying for myself, 3 kids, and 4 animals. Or if I am spending too much, is it really so much more than him that I deserve to be cussed out? He's called me some terrible names. I also told him we should sit down and come up with a budget to which he just tells me "F you" or "F off" because he's not the one with the problem. This is happened before too and he took my credit card away from me. I just really need advice how to fix this situation. He thinks Im spending too much, which ill work to fix, but how do i bring up that i think he is ALSO spending too much? Or do you guys think im wrong and im the only one with the problem? If thats the case i still would like advice on the cussing situation. I told him to stop cussing at me and he told me he will only do that when i stop spending money and also quit being lazy and do a better job cleaning the house. Sorry for rambling. I can clarify anything in comments.