Would a woman with boyfriend/husband want to arrange play date or whatever you call it with a single dad

[ThisGuys]

My daughter has gotten to be close friends with another girl in her class and the girls mum has asked about us getting together at the park so the kids can play, i don't just want to come out with are you single incase she's not and it mess up our kids friendship, she knows im single as I did mention it before, could do with a little advice

It’s a play date, not a date. Definitely don’t ask whether she’s single. If she wants you to know that, she will tell you.

Definitely check if she's single. If she is turn up to the park with a dozen red roses. Also worth talking about birth control before you meet. Good luck.

Exactly what pp said, if you really want to find out, be more subtle, but in answer to your question, yes, a mum married or in a relationship would definitely arrange a play date with the parent of their child's friend regardless of that parent's gender or relationship status! I have in fact as a married woman arranged playdates with my child's friend and their single dad, nothing weird about it.

Why do you need to know whether she's single if your children are playing together in the park?

Just watch the kids and chat about how they're doing, about the school, etc. Chitchat. 🤷‍♀️

Well I mean maybe just for some grown up company whilst the kids play. Men and women can be friends you know. And it's the park so...doesn't really give date vibes.

May even be she feels you may need some grown up company as a single dad so it would be nice to get you out of the house.

If she is into you, then this is 'lets sus him out' territory.

But there's no way to know what's what till you've hung out. Unless she's been dropping flirtatious behaviour you've been oblivious to. And we can't tell you that as we weren't there.

One of my daughters lives with her single dad and I invite them for play dates fairly often. I also invite other kids with their mums, grandmas etc. Whether I’m single or married makes no difference to this.

These are for the kids to play together and socialise, and it’s nice to chat to another adult parenting etc.

I would be absolutely mortified if someone started wondering whether I was single, would be coming on to him etc.

DO NOT HIT ON HER ON A PLAYDATE!!!!

@ThisGuys

"i don't just want to come out with are you single"?

Why, what's your motive?

Obviously not the best interests of your child having a potential playmate!

your thread title says she has a boyfriend/husband

he said "Would"

Since when did a playdate involve both child's parents being together for the allotted time?

Back in the day, before the term 'playdate' was coined - Bill and Ben would play together at one or other's home/park.

Bill's mum would drop him off at Ben's house, and return 2 hours later to pick him up, or something along those lines!

Yes. Her relationship status is irrelevant to her child's friends.

It wouldn't matter to me if they were single, I'm not there to date them!

I guess I don't need to know but would help me understand the situation

@Westfacing

but, but.. what happens to Weed? 😉

What's to understand?
2 children get to enjoy playing and the park.

A parent using their own child as a way to get close to another adult would make that person a really fucking shitty parent, wouldn't you agree?

So maybe a play date is just a play date and doesn't require any thinking about.

do you think the Mum has suggested the playdate cos yer so hawt @ThisGuys? 😉

Your mind has gone straight to this being a potential date. Why? Only you know the context. Without any context then stop being weird.
My kids had a couple of friends who had single dads and we managed to hang out sometimes without it ever occurring to us to think it was a date.

@ThisGuys what situation? Its a playdate for your children, not a pick up!!

It’s a play date, not a date. I’d arrange a play date with the parent/carer of the child that my child was friends with. Their relationship status wouldn’t matter because it’s about 2 kids playing at the park. Seriously, stop being a creep.

Sorry op but this thread is very funny.

She's almost definitely not into you. She's just trying to facilitate her daughter's friendship. The end.

I brought it up to my ex and she was not happy about me going, iv never really gotten the vide that my daughters friends mum is into me but my ex says she clearly is or why would she want us to meet up

Why do you think there's more to understand about the situation? Are you extra ordinarily attractive? Do women who engage with you in everyday contexts, at work, hobbies etc typically use the contact as a means to a date with you? If not, I'd assume there's nothing more to understand than the most likely. Her kid has asked to go to the park with yours.

I expect Weed will play a part somehow!

Please don't sabotage your daughter's friendship by being weird to the other mum...!

lol. You should both grow up and parent your child instead of this immaturity.