My partner and I have been together for nearly 7 years and last month he proposed when we were away in the Lake District. It was so lovely. We have a very good relationship, get on well, laugh all the time, support each other.
We came home and while I didn't go into bridezilla mode, I did go down a rabbit hole of looking into venues, ideas, what we might like. We had a brief chat about what we'd want and made a list of people. I actually wanted a microwedding but he was keen to have more friends there. So far I've just been adding a few ideas to Pinterest and bookmarking some things but I wouldn't say I've gone wedding crazy. I would mention some ideas to him in passing and he wouldn't seem enthusiastic.
Anyway, my partner was made redundant recently so any wedding planning isn't happening for a while. I'm fine with that, we weren't rushing anything.
We saw a mutual friend who knows about the redundancy and understands the situation and asked 'well despite that, what kind of vibe or wedding would you like?'
My partner just said 'CHEAP... and cheerful but definitely CHEAP' she said well that's a budget not a type of wedding and he said something like 'Yeah well beforehand TheBlueRobin was going ON about different ideas and mentioning the wedding all the time' and I just looked at him stunned. I think our friend could see I was a bit annoyed and she had to leave to deal with her little one.
I just felt a bit humiliated and that he can't be honest with me. Maybe I have been in a wedding bubble but its a natural thing to be excited about. I should add this was all before the redundancy, I've not talked about the wedding since as we have bigger priories and busy lives. It just makes me feel the idea of getting married is a big chore.