Bit of a long one, sorry.
DH went for a catch-up drink on Friday with a couple of old mates from school — nothing unusual there, he’s done it before. But since then he’s been acting really odd. Off in his own world, jumpy when I come into the room, glued to his phone but insists it’s just the group chat being “bantery”.
We’ve been together 12 years, 2 DC, and I’ve never had reason not to trust him… until now. He keeps saying he’s tired or stressed with work, but that’s not it. He left his phone on the table last night while putting DS to bed and a message popped up from someone saved as just “S”. All it said was “Still thinking about it x”.
I didn’t open it. I know I probably should have, but I feel sick even typing this. I asked him who “S” was and he said it was “an inside joke” from the lads chat. Really?
He went quiet after that and spent the rest of the night in the kitchen pretending to do a food shop order.
Am I overthinking or is something going on here? I don’t want to start snooping but I also feel like a complete mug sitting here pretending it’s all fine.
WWYD?