Baby daddy and I have shared a home for nearly 3 years now. Everything was great. In April 2025, he met a girl on TikTok who lives overseas. After, I confronted him about the girl and had many conversations of him saying that he doesn’t want to let go of us. He decided that he wanted to pursue something with her and told me that I should detach. Keep in mind, I confronted him about this girl only hours after he was being all lovey dovey with me and expressing how much he loves me.
A week later he was now telling this girl that he loves her and that she’s his wife. Baring in mind they have not met in person. They just talk over WhatsApp and they had only started talking to each other for 2 weeks.
Fast forward to today. We still live together and every night I have to hear him flirting with this girl. He hasn’t even told her that he lives with me. Apparently, she thinks that I live elsewhere and that our apartment is his. Which I think is a bit stupid as she is a mum herself, so wouldn’t you question why our daughter is always there in the background. If he has said that she lives with her mum. He has even given this woman a tour of our home via video call and I’ve heard her telling him what kind of furniture, plants and pictures she would put if she was here. 😒
Apparently, she is also getting very impatient about wanting to see him. He said to me, “This is a joke, but this girl is getting impatient. I don’t have my new passport yet. Would you visit your parents? Then she could come and stay here.”
I told him that there was no way I would leave my home that I pay the rent and bills for, for him to sleep with some girl in my bed and play happy families. Even if it was a joke, it wasn’t a very funny one.
Today, I heard him talking about visiting her for a month and they plan to get married while he’s there. They are even talking about having babies too. I was with this man for 6 years; he always expressed that he didn’t want to get married as he was exposed to his parents divorcing multiple times and didn’t want to have any more kids.
What p*ssed me off the most is that he has had a sexual convo with her on the phone in front of our child.
He’s even expressed to her that before he met her, he never felt horny. When in actual fact, he was always horny, and we had sex everyday before I confronted him about her.
He’s also stated that she is his motivation and someone in his corner. Which again, I think is silly as he’s only known her for a month. Over the past six years, I have always supported him. I cheered him on and been the shoulder to lean on. I was there for him during his severe illness and much more.
I love him, before this situation everything was great! Our families would always say that we were soulmates. Right now, I feel so hurt and disrespected. I feel like he’s making me seem like a bitter baby mum, which I really don’t want to be or is who I am. I’m not even mad at the girl either as she is the innocent one here. I’m just so upset with him. He isn’t even working due to his health, so I have been the one to keep us afloat. I feel like everything, I have done over the years is a slap in the face. I really want to kick him out but he won’t have anywhere to go, and I will feel so guilty. I don’t know what to do. 😭
I can’t believe after 6 years he would hurt me like this. Part of me has detached and doesn’t care anymore. The other half of me feels so broken. After, I heal from this. I don’t think, I could date again as I’ve been through 2 heartbreaks and I’m now terrified of giving a man my all. Then having it thrown back in my face.