I am writing this as the 30 year old daughter of two adults who plan to split. Before anyone asks why I still live with my parents, it’s not just a cost thing, I am disabled, have autism and epilepsy, have seizures and while I don’t work and am on ADP/PIP I volunteer - I am also looking for sheltered/some sort of housing and hand in money. My name is on the council list but I have no children. I have a boyfriend of a few years but we aren’t ready to live together yet.
anyway. I won’t go into masses of detail but my parents have had an unhappy marriage (cheating has been involved I found out age 13 and told my mum but they stayed together for me and sister who is NT and lives alone now)
They aren’t divorced. My dad is quite well off and earns around 70k a year. I’m not sure how much he has in savings but not enough to buy a house outright presumably. We live in a house bought for 210k in 2009 and the mortgage will be paid off in a few years. Dad is very tight/ doesn’t like spending money and is convinced mum will end up staying. The house is going to eventually be sold but basically the sale of the house won’t pay enough for my mum to live in her own place even if everything is split. My mum refuses to rent says it’s throwing money away. She’s on the housing list like me but doesn’t think she has much chance. She doesn’t have family who she wants to live with.
mum doesn’t have a job, just her pension. She doesn’t have a degree like dad and spent most of her life bringing me and my sister up. She’s done odd little jobs but not now. She’s in her late sixties. Dad late fifties.
dad would never willingly hand over her money if it meant she left him. He’s in denial.
I know she’d probably get half of everything in court but nothings being pressed forwards and I don’t know how long a court battle would take.
they both are kind of stagnating and I just want her to be happy. I know there’s not much I can do but is there any advice you’d offer her?
im also sad there’s no place for me if they both move away (my mum wants to move an hour or two away) as i dont want to move , but im aware thats inherintly selfish of me and thats why im looking at sheltered housing
I just want my mom to be happy. she seems so depressed stuck here. But then again so does dad sometimes, Thanks guys