Good Morning Lovely Legend Ladies.
As you all helped me so much with my terrible situation/breakup last year, I have been asked by a friend to post her situation for a little advice and moral support.
Friend has two children, DD 6 & DS 11. Friend's H had severe mental health issues, and committed suicide before DD was born - in actual fact, she didn't know she was pregnant at the time and found out shortly after.
Friend then fell in with a lovely man who we'd known for years throughout our childhood, and he was an amazing support for her. He was even there through DD's birth, and she now calls him 'daddy' even though she is aware that her real father has sadly passed. DS is besotted with him as he is so active in his upbringing and has been a great role model. Rarely leaves the house without him type of relationship.
Friend and DP have been fantastic over the years, fantastic to each other/with each other, fantastic to me and mine, so involved in all aspects of family life, schooling. Everything.
Recently he broached the subject of getting married, and had taken her to choose a ring which was a massive step. They'd talked about it over the years but really never were in any rush to do anything about it.
Friend sold her house and moved in with DP, have been living in bliss. An odd drama here and there from his Ex Wife but the height of it ends there.
DP cooked a lovely meal at the weekend, sent through wedding venues he'd been looking at in the North of Ireland. Friend sent them to me as 'shit was getting real' in absolute excitement, as you do.
Until of course (two days later) - he hops out of bed and tells her he doesn't know how he feels anymore, he would like her to move out, has cold feet, doesn't think he wants to settle down, would find life easier on his own, doesn't feel like he knows the real her, doesn't know what to do, doesn't know if he will regret this all, is prepared to live his life in turmoil if he regrets the decision...
The list goes on. But ah sure girls you know if it doesn't rain it pours ☔
I'm asking for some advice really for her, and things because I think that if he can do this then she shouldn't go back. She deserves the world, and then some.
She is the most dignified human angel I know, and in true honour she just took it on the chin. I, on the other hand feel like putting laxative in the bastard's milk.
But what in the Jesus Lord has went through this man's mind? Friend is heartbroken, and my heart breaks for her too.
You were all amazing for me when I needed it. 💚