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New Love Interest Weighs Himself Daily

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CuriousKiteFlyer · 24/05/2025 07:08

Do you think it says something about a man's character that the first thing he does in the morning every day is weigh himself? He has a healthy BMI and is active. I don't know anyone else who does this.
Thank you!

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Bjorkdidit · 24/05/2025 08:56

CharlotteLightandDark · 24/05/2025 07:36

they usually advise once a week one due to normal daily fluctuations in weight.

i think it’s a bit excessive and unnecessary for anyone and in a man would give me the ick.

Anyone who advises weekly because of fluctuations isn't worth listening to because they don't know how to weigh things.

If you weigh weekly and find you have gained 3 pounds, you'd likely spend a week wondering why and beating yourself up about it until you're 'allowed' to weigh yourself again.

But if you weigh daily and find you're 3 pounds heavier than the day before, you'll know its not possible to gain 3 pounds in a day and will likely find most of it has gone the day after and it was due to eating something salty, or your cycle if you're female etc.

CuriousKiteFlyer · 24/05/2025 15:57

Thanks everyone for the replies. It sounds like this is normal practice for a lot of people. He just mentioned it in passing quite casually and it wasn't really out of context. I suppose it just made me wonder if we're compatible as I've never dated a man who has done this before and it wouldn't occur to me to weigh myself. Also he's very attractive physically (in my eyes), quite a lot better looking than he needs to be for my standards, so I'm a bit worried he might be overly appearance focused. So far he seems like a nice enough guy though and you can't help your genetics!

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handsdownthebest · 24/05/2025 16:57

CuriousKiteFlyer · 24/05/2025 15:57

Thanks everyone for the replies. It sounds like this is normal practice for a lot of people. He just mentioned it in passing quite casually and it wasn't really out of context. I suppose it just made me wonder if we're compatible as I've never dated a man who has done this before and it wouldn't occur to me to weigh myself. Also he's very attractive physically (in my eyes), quite a lot better looking than he needs to be for my standards, so I'm a bit worried he might be overly appearance focused. So far he seems like a nice enough guy though and you can't help your genetics!

FWIW as I mentioned in previous post DH and I weigh daily…we’re not ‘appearance focused’. I’m 60 and he’s 62 but we’re sporty and just like to look fit and slim. There is nothing wrong with that. Personally I feel that if people were a bit more aware of their weight we wouldn’t have so much obesity.
I put on weight very easily and am lucky that I do a high intensity sport otherwise I would struggle to stay slim and when my sporting days are over I will have to reassess my calorie consumption.
He sounds like he looks after himself and there is nothing wrong with that. He might also have family members on the larger side and doesn’t want to join them on the slippery slope.

JohnTheRevelator · 24/05/2025 17:16

A bit obsessive in my opinion. Once a week,fine. Every day? Over the top.

CuriousKiteFlyer · 24/05/2025 18:44

Thank you for the additional replies, he may well have family members that struggle with their weight, I hadn't though of that.
One reason I'm concerned about whether he is overly looks focused is because, I might look like his type superficially BUT I have scarring that is pretty extreme across my chest (burns). He is not aware of this as we are just getting to know each other at this point and my scars aren't visible when I'm wearing clothes.
My first impression of him was that he was nice but is a looker who would probably care quite a bit about looks in the women he dates. He is also a bit shy so my hesitation plus his is making things very awkward.
It's a tricky one. I don't particularly want to have to say to a man that I'm getting to know that I have this extreme scarring just to see if they run away... With some people you can tell they aren't shallow but I'm on the fence with him.
This is turning into a different kind of thread but any advice is welcome!
Thanks

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TheHappyBug · 24/05/2025 18:57

I weigh every day, I don’t count calories or track my food so it helps me keep an eye on my weight.

If he is put off by your scarring he is not worth knowing. To be fair though most people I know that are focused on their own appearance don’t expect a certain standard from others, they are far too busy obsessing about themselves to notice!

UnemployedNotRetired · 24/05/2025 19:03

It is a fairly common recommendation for men seeking to control their weight.

UnemployedNotRetired · 24/05/2025 19:04

Any man who thought less of you because of scars isn't worth being with.

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