Possible divorce over the telly volume

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Not us (honest!) but someone at work, she seriously thinks it might come to that

Between us we have suggested:

Take it in turns to have it at ‘your’ volume. He won’t do that because he “can’t hear it at all” at her level so no point watching

Get his hearing tested if he really can’t hear it at a reasonable level. No, he says there’s nothing wrong with his hearing

Have it halfway between the two. No because this is still too loud for her and too quiet for him so no one’s happy

Watch in different rooms. No because they didn’t get married to spend every evening apart (which is actually fair enough)

Any other suggestions I could put forward?

He needs to get his hearing tested.

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Get your hearing tested and ears checked for wax because he can’t hear shit and if he doesn’t, she won’t put up with it any more. It’s as simple as that. He is being a dick head. She needs to put her foot down.

Hearing test for him, or noise enhancing headphones so your friend can have the television at normal level?

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We have an "acceptable volume" any louder and we have subtitles Dh is hard of hearing and I can't cope with his volume it shakes the bloody living room.

she needs to follow through with the being in another room.
And having the subtitles on.
And just keep on doing it until he gets a hearing test

In the meantime she could try something like Loop earplugs?

I agree he should have a hearing test but she says he just won’t do it because he doesn’t have a problem anywhere else

What does closed caption mean?

They’re against headphones because it’s not really much different to being in separate rooms

Wow Sunwarddangledhardens I’ll show her that, thank you!

Subtitles not a bad idea too, hadn’t thought of that

When you love someone, you care about their needs and if they say you're doing something that's easily remedied, you do it.

He could get a hearing test
Use subtitles

He's not willing to do either despite causing discomfort which says a lot about his attitude.

It reminds me of snorers who don't sort it out because it doesn't bother them.

My hearing isn't as great as it was, but not bad enough for hearing aids yet (so expensive too!) when we have the TV on we almost always have subtitles on anyway, and this really helps me.

Bluetooth headphones for each of them to adjust at their own volume

and obviously hearing tests. They should both go. Together then it’s not a finger pointing thing

Close caption is just subtitles.

Hearing test and probably hearing aid for him. When I go to my dad’s the telly is outrageously loud. He turns it down and puts on the subtitles. And makes sure his hearing aids are on.

I’d say possible divorce over his lack of enough care to go for a simple hearing test.

This isn’t about the volume though is it.

it’s about the fact he won’t go for the hearing test.

so he is putting his own ego and wants above hers.

i personally wouldn’t want to be married to someone like that, I would rather watch tv on my own at the volume I want, time I want and program I want.

Is it too loud though at his volume?
Another suggestion would be noise cancelling war defenders for her.

Sound bar? My DH has hearing loss in one ear but doesn’t wear his aid. Sound bar helps but yes her husband needs to go to his GP for an Audiology appointment.

The real problem is that the husband isn't interested in a solution/compromise.
He just wants to dictate.

I do agree about the hearing test, I have suggested she offers to go for one as well (good idea beAsensible1)

Subtitles not an option, she says they’re quite fast and he can’t read quick enough. Never done it myself so wouldn’t know

She’s loving that neck ring, definitely looking into that

I have wondered how they got to this stage but I don’t know her all that well so daren’t ask but surely this must have come up way before they got married. Unless it’s a relatively new thing, which takes it back to him needing a hearing test

I’m intrigued by the notion that the point of marriage is to sit in the same room staring at the tv getting cross with each other.

Divorce. Life is too short.

Sound bar. Both DH and I are starting to get to the stage where we can hear the television WAY better with a good quality sound bar, even though the volume is not as high. I assume because it uses a greater range of frequencies? (Guessing)

I googled it - yeah that's basically why, also you can get ones which have voice clarity modes.

But also, he's a twat if he's prepared to make his wife suffer rather than go for a hearing test.

So, to be clear, no to separate rooms but possibly yes to divorce?

Get a television in the bedroom. One can watch it downstairs, to their liking and the other can do the same upstairs.

Tell her to join a club / societies and go out most evenings. There's far more interesting things to do than sitting and watching TV.

Leave him to be boring and watch TV all night.