Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Follow up to my post yesterday.

12 replies

DollyOakley16 · 19/05/2025 12:22

So I texted my partner this morning and told him he completely ignored the fact I expected him to cut out bacardi for me after a three month split as he was a twat on it. He drinks most nights (whether that's a few Guinness or bacardi) and doesnt see the problem with that. He says he HAS cut back lately. We don't live together. He texted back saying we have had a great time going places the last few weeks and he has been very supportive of me and I should cut him some slack and appreciate him more. I said the days out were only what any partner would do and I pay my way also. I shouldnt have to feel grateful for that. Basically, he thinks he doesn't have an issue and I've nothing to complain about. I'm starting to wonder if i'm just looking for a reason to fall out with him or if I actually do have a valid point! I don't expect him to sit without a drink if we are out but. the point was that he said when we got back together he would stop drinking bacardi. That last two weeks. I need someone to see this clearly for me. Thank you.

OP posts:
ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself · 19/05/2025 12:23

What post?

Why don’t you link it here?

Or why don’t you just put this comment there?

Motnight · 19/05/2025 12:27

Op what are you looking for from the several separate threads that you have started about this issue with your partner?

S0j0urn4r · 19/05/2025 12:28

I read your previous thread. Lots of good advice. Not sure why you're posting again as it seems to be basically the same issues.
You're clearly not happy with your DP regardless of what he says. You either put up with it and stay or you don't and split up.
Only you can really know what you will/won't put up with.

MrsSlocombesCat · 19/05/2025 12:34

You clearly don't want to be with him. He clearly doesn't want to stop drinking. It really doesn't matter who is right or wrong, this relationship has run it's course for you. End it.

TwistedWonder · 19/05/2025 14:11

OP - you’ve started numerous threads about this loser and the advice is the same on every thread.

Dump him and stop wasting your life

CeffylCoch · 19/05/2025 17:21

Dump him, he will never change. In fact he will probably get worse again before you know it

anon666 · 19/05/2025 18:24

If any kind of alcoholic drink makes him a nightmare, he's likely heading for alcoholism, if not already there.

You are hibestly better off throwing this one back if you can.

Myotherusernamesafunnyone · 19/05/2025 20:29

TwistedWonder · 19/05/2025 14:11

OP - you’ve started numerous threads about this loser and the advice is the same on every thread.

Dump him and stop wasting your life

This. x1000

Laura95167 · 19/05/2025 21:25

It sounds like you don't like him, he's not going to be the man you want him to be.

Drinking everyday is an issue, and I don't think being rigid about bacardi will help, even if he agree he'll just drink more beer or move on to Jack Daniels instead or something. He doesn't want to stop. This is who he is. Accept it or end it

Laura95167 · 19/05/2025 21:27

Even if it's you looking for a reason to end it, that's cuz you want to end it. So end it

Ilikewinter · 20/05/2025 09:03

Going round in circles here - yet more pointless threads.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread