Is weed ADDICTIVE?

[flubdub]

Is it addictive physically (like cigarettes, or heroin) Or is it all in the head?
If someone has smoked it everyday for 15 years (heavily everyday, until the last 12 months where its once a night), and wont stop, are they addicted?

actions like those outlined in your second pot are clearly problems and unacceptable (e.g. leaving housse for days and not telling you etc) and they should most certainly be adressed.
however do you think it is all down to an addiction to weed, would he still do these things if he could smoke in your garage?
honest questions, because to me that sounds more like a respect issue than a drug addiction if he is down to only smoking once a day.

he really isnt inconsiderate. tbh hes wonderful, although it obviously doesnt sound it.
when hes good, hes PERFECT, and i really mean, perfect! when hes bad, hes shit.

He certainly doesn't sound wonderful... sleeping with another woman several times sounds somewhat less than wonderful for starters to say the least! As theBOD says, it sounds like more of a respect issue than a drug issue. What do you think?

no, none of its to do with the weed directly.
But, at the time, he was very depressed, and confused, and i dont think the weed helped at all.
Doesnt it make depression worse? Shoud smeone who is depressed, really be smoking weed?

He cheated on my a year ago. I dont really want to go into details as it will start tears that i just cant stop. But it was 3 times, and all three times he had slept at her house after we'd had a massive row.
WERE over it now, (i mean that as a couple, it doesnt affect us anymore) but im certainly not over it.
Its made me feel completely insecure, and maybe, i suppose, im trying to control him, because i couldnt control what happened then. I dont know.

I think the effect on depression will depend on the individual circumstances as evidenced by the conflicting opinions for example here - most accurately summed up by the quote "For some of these patients, depression was a by-product of a debilitating disease or illness for which marijuana provided a welcome remedy. For others, the marijuana seems to have acted directly on the depression." In essence, it may have a positive effect, it may have a negative effect, it depends on the person.

for the record i know 3 people who have been sectioned before there 18th birthday due to smoking copious amounts of weed everyday for years so i am not making light of abuse of this drug.however all 3 people had a family history of depresion/mental illness, so much like alcoholism etc it affects different people different ways, and i personally feel that a mature approach to it is no different to a mature approach to alcohol (although accept others feel different)

i think your problems go far beyond weed, tbh.

flubdub, that's what you do in a relationship though, isn't it? All the stuff you mention is what you do if you want a relationship to continue. To be honest, most people would have given up on him after all those infidelities and I can't understand why you're 'OK' with that but are carping about a bit of weed. I think your priorities are skewed, or you might be using the weed as a scapegoat for all the other stuff. I am not criticising you, but I really do think that you need to work out what is going on in your own head. Sorry.

I didnt say I was 'ok' with him cheating on me.
I wouldnt say that because it wouldnt be true. I cry about it everyday, a year on.
Im not 'ok'.

You're right, I do need to sort my own head out. I still have a lot of unanswered questions. But as dp is reluctant to talk about what happened, Im not likely to sort it out. I feel I should just grin and bear it as it was a year ago, and shoud be over it by now.

So what do I do?
Ive been like this for a year.

The answer is no. My problems are about the past I think, but still not happy about the weed. Hes not a teenager, hes 28, and I think its childish.
I want to be a normal family, no drugs involved.

It is one of those things that makes you more letharagic but chilled than usual - can be good in some ways but bad in others. You need more sleep and can't be bothered more. I think one smoke a night is ok but it can build up and make someone less inclined to do anything...just my opinion

Am I in some crazy parallel universe? Cannabis is an extremely damaging substance, and a parent who is unable to stop smoking dope every night (even if it is 'just the one' spliff) has got a problem.

It's nowhere in the same league as alcohol or tobacco - and I say that with authority because in my late teens/early twenties I smoked more dope than some of you lot have had hot dinners.

Also, what about when the OP's kids get older and are 'aware' of what their dad is doing?

And let's not forget that waccy baccy is actually illegal, and knowingly engaging in illegal activity when you are a parent is just stupid.

As for the 'me and my middle class friends do it so it must be ok' argument, I haven't read anything so laughable in a very long time.

obimomkanobi makes a very good point. After all, none of us know that we will never appear before a family court judge to argue for custody of our kids. "Your honour, (s)he smokes spliffs" would not be a good thing to hear.

Why is it more dangerouse than cigarettes?
Surely a 20 a day fag habit is much more dangerous than a 3 or 4 spliffs a week habit?

Why is weed more dangerous? It's perception altering, demotivating and is responsible for a significant number of acute admissions to psych. units.

20 fags a day might fuck your lungs up, but they don't fry your brains.

it's not responsible for, it can make already existing conditions worse sometimes but it's not responsible for putting people into psychiatric units.