Is it okay in a relationship to vacation alone with a friend of the opposite sex?

[OneArtfulAnt]

In a monogamous relationship: would you be okay with your partner regularly going on one-on-one holidays that last more than 2 nights, like 5–7 days, with a platonic friend of the opposite sex — someone they had a brief romantic history with in the past?

There’s no specific reason for the trip (just a casual vacation), and this wouldn’t be a one-time thing — it happens once or twice a year, with one or two such friends.

Would you be comfortable with that, or would it make you feel uneasy?

I go on holiday fairly often with male friends, and DH occasionally meets an old female friend overseas. Not something that bothers either of us.

No, and I'm not a jealous person. I also have a very good male friend (absolutely no history!) and I would expect it to raise eyebrows, especially if it was more than once

Absolutely not. We have friends of the opposite sex. We might meet them for lunch or a coffee but definitely would not go on holiday alone with them.

He's going away with friends he isn't going alone with her. But i wouldn't like that you aren't invited unless it's for some hobby that you aren't into , cycling holiday etc. Then I'd be ok with it

I’m a bit weird in that I don’t really mind if my DH has sex with other people, but I do have certain rules about it. One of them is “no exes.” I don’t want to share him romantically, and I feel like spending time alone with someone you previously dated leaves the door open for things to reignite. So no, I wouldn’t be okay with that.

It’s a no from me. Slightly different in that I’m a lesbian but no, my wife wouldn’t be holidaying with her ex.

He’s going away with one woman , it’s just not always the same woman . He has 3 female friends he goes away with alone on separate occasions. The op has posted about this before .

Nope.

DH wanted to do that when we had been dating for around 6 months. I nearly ended the relationship over it as I didn’t feel comfortable about it at all.

Same here. DP actually went away with his ex about a year into our relationship. She was going through a rough time and said she needed to get away. He was being kind. Yes, I dumped him. Yes, he talked me round later. We are ok.

In my opinion, absolutely not. I wouldn't even be in a relationship with someone who's still friends with someone they've had a fling with, it's just not okay.

Nope. I'd be thinking why I hadn't been invited!? It's difference if he's going out with a female friend to the café for a coffee, but there's certain activities and situations that would be a "hell no" and going on holiday is one of them.

No of course not. No one in their right mind would. No one with an ounce of common sense who cared for their partner would suggest it in the first place.

Not with these circumstances.

If there was no past, perhaps. If I was invited but didn’t want to go, perhaps. If there was a clearer reason (shared hobby I had no interest in) perhaps.

The regularity, the past, the exclusion, the lack of purpose, etc. all makes this one a no.

Absolutely not. Zero chance. I agree with everything previous posters have said. Sorry OP.