I’ve been dating someone quite intensely for 2 months. I really like and care about them. We have a great time and I havnt felt this way about someone in a while. Dating is the pits and it seems like there is no one decent out there, at least that wants to commit. I am early 30s for context.
early on I knew they dabbled with drugs but I thought this was very occasional use, which I don’t have a problem with.
however, it has become apparent it’s every week (that I know about).
the person also obsessively exercises everyday because they say if they don’t then they feel like shit. I think this may be linked to the drug use.
sometimes I see them and they are so tired and hungover it’s not fun.
i have tried to gently broach the subject a couple of times but they clearly don’t think their use is a problem.
I did it with them a couple of times so I feel like now i can’t really say anything as I would be a hipocrete. I have made it clear to them that I have no interest in doing it more than 1 - 2 times a year as I don’t want to make a habit of it. I have stuck to this even though they have offered me some.
im actually starting to feel really sad for them. Im being trying not to cry at work today as i saw them yesterday and they were so hungover and seemed quite down but very affectionate and into me still.
I really care and want to help them.
has anyone had any experience of this sort of situation and does anyone have any advice?