Partner threw away my purse containing sentimental jewellery.

[leilall]

Really upset with my partner, am I overreacting?
last week, I went on a family day out. I sit in the back usually with my toddler if it’s a long drive. And had placed the purse in the passenger seat pocket of the seat.

I usually have 2 purses (a card holder and a coin purse, receipts etc). In the back of the purse pocket contained a 23 year old, gold necklace, gifted by my father. I placed it in there as I needed the latch fixing. And planned to take it to a jewellery shop.

Anyway my partner decided to throw the purse away when finding it. Containing my necklace. His excuse was he thought it may have belonged to the previous owner of the car, as it didn’t have cards in. (he has had the car over a year) so my response was ‘why didn’t you just text me and ask just to confirm’ anyway we spent an hour driving around the place he dumped my purse.
And then he proceeded to apologise and transfer me £1000. I don’t know the value exactly as Iv had it for decades. But it was sentimental, I cannot just replace it. I have looked online cannot find it.
i actually cried when I found out (i’m heavy pregnant, emotional) but I’m just pissed with the lack of carelessness. Do I just let it go now? How would you act?

If you trust him let it go, if he's telling the truth he is remorseful and has tried to replace the necklace by giving you money to buy a new one. If you don't trust him then it could be all the bad things suggested above.

But really didn't he just put it in an identifiable bin where it either would still be or someone found it or the bin was emptied, how would you have to drive around looking for it?

I’d be thinking along these lines too. Especially no.1.
Why would he automatically jump to he thought it might belong to the previous owner and not you and why wouldn’t he have asked you first?!
Also, why were you driving around looking for it. Surely if he’d chucked it away, he would have put it in a bin?
I’d be furious with him and want some bloody answers sharpish!

People saying he's having an affair and the woman left it and he panicked and got rid of it; you would think if he thought it belonged to someone he cared about at all and had the contact details of he would try to give it back or ask if it belonged to her. I wonder if he had a sex worker in the car and assumed she dropped it and chucked it?

It's massively fishy anyway.

He thought his girlfriend left it in the car and panicked. I wouldn't say there's any other explanation that would make sense.

I’m not saying it’s the most likely explanation either, but I found out an ex was cheating because ow left a piece of post with her name on it in the passenger side door. Apparently, he was just giving her a lift somewhere and she happened to have been collecting her post and must have left it there getting out of the car. 🙄 She very obviously left it there, so I’d do exactly what I did: get in the car the next day, be like, oh whose bill is this? And see her name (I knew her, she was a previous ex of his). Obviously, if he’d found it before me, he would have panicked and binned it.

Does he usually have a spare £1000 ?
I would think hes either sold it or ow has found it and he's said 'oh that's my exs'

Any rational adult in a relationship would assume it's yours

Had you had an argument or something prior to the purse chucking incident? Or had he been pissed off about something? I had an ex that would regularly bin things in a strop and regret it later when it was too late.

Or is it possible that he just is that dense and binned it without thinking?