oh, and to top off my week, Aunty turns up with guilt trips.......arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh((plus a scary proposition[shock]))

[Psychomum5]

arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

honestly, how much more heart shocks can one girl take ((please don;t answer that))

get home from the medals, upload the photos, and who should ring.......Aunty!!!

(anyone not in the know, aunty bought me up, she is rather toxic and causes me much much stress)

anyhoo......as much as would have liked to have lied, clearly me answering the home line gives the game away, and she ask's how we are, I am nice and say we have had medals and are now relaxing, so she springs on that she is around the corner and on her way to visit us.........

(that was me on a dead faint)

so in she trots, along with her dog which she knows I am allergic to but I can't say NO, as then the dog would be left in a hot car, and that isn;t overly fair.

and then came the point of her visit....

she went to see my mother (more issues, she is schizophrenic), and has pressies from her, and then also tells me that she is 'on one', hasn;t had visits from us, is 'on the attack' (meaning that injections have had to be given to calm her down), and I am to go visit ASAP, especially as my brother hasn;t been since october and it isn;t fair, she gave us life blah blah blah.

aunty doesn;t get it, I gve up explaining, I can;t go right now, especially if mum is indeed 'on the attack.

AND..............

wait for it.................

aunty wants to come on holiday with us this year, she wants us to go to holland and she will give us something for her part, she thinks the children would like to go to this park in holland...............

no acknowledgement of were we might like to go, no acknowledgement of our complete lack of money for such a trip that we would not choose to go on....nothin, nada.......

arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

((sorry, for the rant))

am on msn if you need to rant!

first of all

(((((((((((((psycho))))))))))) (nearly real named you then!)

You survived a trip from the Aunt...well done

now then...you know you Can Not Go and see your mum don't you? Not for now at least. Its not your fault she is "on teh attack", your mum has a condition that was NOT caused by you, nor could you make it any better so throw those feelingas of guilt away right now!

also, so waht of your brother hasn't been? its hardly your fault!!

as for Holland...tell her you are allergic to tulips or clogs or windmills (can you tell me knowledge of Holland is limited ) and that you have already decided where to go on holiday (better decide quick!)

thankyou so much (I got you email...will reply later!!!)

I know

I KNOW I KNOW

so why does she still make me feel so fucking shit

(am on wine now)

To quote someone else, she knows where your buttons are because she helped install them... hence the feeling shit-ness.

hi can only say

btw I bet the park is Efteling. Its fantastic, but not with aunts.

I want to tak emy dd soemday!!

Install a 2nd phone line with a new number inform everyone else but here. Answer machine for existing number.

Stay strong - stuff your mother , stuff your Aunt they really are not your problem. When you are ready to have any sort of relationship with them then that would be fantastic but in the meantime keeping yourself on an even keely is your priority!!

A holiday with her - she is MAD!

pirate cat.....yes....that is the park!!!

may be fantastic, but, would be MORE fantastic ON OUR OWN...!!!!!!!!!!!

grrrr

hey ho.....let it go, let it go

((so I say......tisn;t working tho)

((doesn;t she know I have had a shit week???....actually, yes, she does, she was mean about that too))

portandlemon.................

far too many buttons

cargirl.......we changed our number before, was bliss, then I got drunk and guilty and rang her without with-holding!!!!

....cannot trust me with wine!!!

2 words

caller display.

Don't let her stress you out anymore.

Practising saying no.

No

No

NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

NO

(didn;t work yet!)

oh, caller display,,,,,,does that work on kiddies who just pick up the phone thinking it is their friends??

((not got yet, I think it a fine idea, just wondering is all!!))

......I can say NO.....

((just not to her))

Answering machine that you can hear, enabling you to call-screen (I used to use mine all the time to deter a) creditors and b)masturbators). Your loony relatives are not your fault. Best wishes.

madamez.......I think I may need to go shop for something!!

thing was, she never ever rings this time of day, tis alwasy before 8am (cos of the phone rates), so she caught us out......holly answered, she went WHITE!

and now DH has fucked off out to golf....

golf

NOW

wanker

(wasn;t warned either...tis a sunday, bedtime and lunchbox time.....arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh)

Is she a real person or have you just read a line out of a book?

She wants you all to go on holiday with her to somewhere that she has chosen??

Eh!

oh, she is all to real believe me....sadly

she bought me up.....!

tis ok.....we will be decining the holiday Q, but I am just raghry about it all!!!!

You know you want to go!

There might be dogs lions there to see

lol......am still very about that!!!!

as if anyone could get thro life thinking that dogs are related to lions.....

I mean

you would have to be insane to think that!!!!

((oops, she is))

((still shudder at the memory of all the looks from the other people backing away!!))

((voodooo doll anyone))

last minute strop of the day!!!

I know there is a strong invitation from your aunt to feel responsible for your mums attack...but it really is not your responsibility on how your mum feels. We are responsible for our own feelings...not others.

You obviously know that your aunt is slightly out of her mind to invite herself on your family holiday and even tell you where you are going. So you need to work out how to say no to her...and then how you can protect yourself from her verbal attacks.

You can do this just work on your plan of action...