My DP and I have our own places (2 hours apart) and he stays at mine quite a lot. I have a DC so can’t stay at his.
He came here Sunday night with the intention of staying for a week. Last night I was talking to him when he picked up his phone, so I stopped talking. He then rolled his eyes and said, “whatever”. He’s on his phone A LOT and I’ve previously explained how shitty it feels for him to be scrolling on his phone when I’m talking to him, so this isn’t a one-off. I developed the strategy of stopping talking when he touches his phone but now he gets annoyed when I do this.
Later in bed we had a big argument. I tried to tell him how I was feeling and he got angry, even raised his voice. I just wanted him to hold me cos I was upset. We went to sleep angry and upset.
This morning, he got up before me, and I got up as he was getting dressed. No “good morning” or kiss etc. He then mumbled, “I’m going out” and left. I’ve previously told him I feel anxious and on edge when I have no idea when to expect him home (I’m autistic) and he’d agreed to be mindful of this. But now he’s done it again.
When he left, I called him and asked him to come back to talk. He said he has to be somewhere. I told him to just come and get his stuff and go back to his, cos I’m not spending the rest of my day anxious etc. He said he’ll do it in 2 hours and go home.
We then argued and he said I’m weaponising my home, as if he’s some bum without a place of his own. He got offended that I’m “kicking him out”. I told him I can’t live with an insensitive, uncaring person and he said we won’t ever be living together, meaning we’re done with the relationship.
I feel so broken. My DC will be devastated as she’s become very fond of him. All I wanted was some affection and now it looks like it’s ending. He’s due home in about 45 minutes. I don’t want him to go, I just want him to hold me. What do I do.