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wanting to start dating...aged 56...

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Doryfish12 · 18/04/2025 16:28

slim chance of meeting someone at work/socialising etc
would you recommend any dating sites ??
Tinder does not sound right for me...
would pay for a decent membership
thanks

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SantasLargerHelper · 18/04/2025 16:32

I met some lovely men on Tinder tbh. Including the one I'm currently in the best relationship of my life with. We are both 55.

I also found Hinge was a good app to meet normal decent men on.

Obviously there's a lot of dross on there as well. But decent men stand out, you can generally filter them out after a chat. And you can pick men who are into the same things as you are.

ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself · 18/04/2025 16:36

I think the apps are slightly different depending on your area. Some people say Plenty of Fish is terrible, but in my area I’ve found it fine. And I’ve heard other people rate it quite well too.

Hinge always gets very good reviews (see the comment above by @SantasLargerHelper!) but for me? Nothing. Crickets. Not even a whisper.

Bumble was okay. Got some dates from that.

The most important thing is a good write up, face and body photos (‘body’ = full length jeans and T-shirt type photo, not bikini!).

Doryfish12 · 18/04/2025 16:47

Thanks both, thats really helpful.

Oh, definately NO bikini photos!!

wish me luck... wasn't expecting to be looking again at this age! 😀

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ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself · 18/04/2025 16:50

@Doryfish12 theres also an online dating thread here in relationships somewhere.

SexEdInMy50s · 18/04/2025 17:02

I was the same age as you a few years ago when I first started dating (after a long marriage).
I avoided Tinder knowing very little about OLD but assuming that it was mainly a hook-up site, just for ONS and young people (?).

I used PofF as it was free, but also paid to join Match - thinking if men are paying to join then they are serious about wanting a relationship not just sex. That didn’t turn out to be true, they are all the same whichever site they’re on!

Couple of years later I tried Bumble and Tinder. I would say that all 4 sites that I’ve been on are very similar.

Some good guys genuinely wanting a partner, and many more with their hands down their trousers and either wanting just casual fling (no judgement here, I just think they should be honest about it) and some who just want to chat or message for ages and don’t ever want to meet.

I agree with the PP that a lot will depend on where you live, and how far you are prepared to travel. And you will definitely be more successful in an urban/city environment rather than rural.

I would say, don’t discount Tinder as it is the largest and most well-known so it has more men signed up to choose from. Just think of it as an introduction.
Also be prepared to be thick-skinned. OLD is not for the faint of heart.
Good luck!

SantasLargerHelper · 18/04/2025 17:03

@Doryfish12 best of British. Definitely take time with your profile and get current, decent photos. I had some from recent holidays and nights out. A full length one is also a good shout. All my photos had me with a drink in my hand and sitting down as taken when out and about so I got a friend to come over before we went out one night and take a nice full length one of me.

SexEdInMy50s · 18/04/2025 17:10

ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself · 18/04/2025 16:50

@Doryfish12 theres also an online dating thread here in relationships somewhere.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/5269093-dating-thread-52-2025-springing-into-spring#:~:text=52%20%

Doryfish12 · 18/04/2025 17:17

thanks so much, you are all lovely 😊

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