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Younger girlfriend -doesn't seem right

57 replies

Headingforthsun · 08/04/2025 01:56

Would it bother you if you discovered that the guy you were dating used to date an 19 year old when he was 32? They married and had kids. They married when she was 24.

He seems such a nice guy but this has really thrown me. The person I'm dating is now nearly 50 so I'm bothered about something that happened quite a long time ago.

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ChicaWowWow · 09/04/2025 20:37

Doggymummar · 08/04/2025 07:51

I married at 19 in 1989 it was common then, what are the perceived issues?

Was he 32 when he married you?

Curiousto · 09/04/2025 20:49

ChicaWowWow · 09/04/2025 20:27

Complete BS! Is that what he told you? That "15 years ago 19 yo were different to today's"? I was 19 about 15 years ago, and I was more like a kid than an adult, frankly! Much closer in mentality to a 15 yo that a 32 or 40 yo. The shit these sleazy, controlling middle aged men will come up with to justify preying on late teens is baffling!

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This may surprise you, but I was actually alive 15 years ago and worked closely with a number of 18-21 year olds then and still do now.

It's my opinion, not his 😉

Please don't judge everyone on your lone experience.

ChicaWowWow · 09/04/2025 22:05

This may surprise you, but I was actually alive 15 years ago

Wtf are you on about 😆

Please don't judge everyone on your lone experience

Not judging everyone, only disgusting, old, middle aged men who have relationships with 19 yos 😘

MarkingBad · 09/04/2025 22:49

OP since you are still around has this thread been any help to you or are you still considering how you feel about it?

yugflalska · 10/04/2025 07:57

It’s rarely the other way around isn’t it…nearly always a sleazy older man looking to dominate a younger, inexperienced woman.

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 10/04/2025 07:58

Icanttakethisanymore · 08/04/2025 06:14

Some 19yos are very mature and some 32yos are very immature. It wouldn’t bother me

I agree.

StartAnew · 10/04/2025 08:04

Finding this age gap creepy I think is quite a new thing. But some people do, and if you are one of them it will be a problem in your relationship.
Personally I think that getting married very young with that age gap is likely to work against the younger person in various ways, not sharing sex and intimacy for a while then moving on.

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