Cold sore and second date 😢

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Typical that I have a cold sore today of all days. I really like him and was anticipating maybe a kiss at the end of the night. We are eating out. I've bought some patches but as soon as I eat it comes off and it's obvious that I've got one on anyway!
Clutching at straws here but any ideas?

Definitely a cold sore?

I sometimes get slits at the corner of my mouth that takes ages to heal. They aren't coldsores (have another name and are not catchy) but easily mistaken for them.

You need to let it run its course completely unfair and irresponsible to try and cover it up or hurry it along and risk passing it on to him

Definitely! I've had them for years. I just want to kiss him! But it'll spread all over and he'll get them for life.. 😂

Just let him know. And it may prolong the anticipation? If he is into you, he will wait

Damn that sucks.

I'd just say straight off the bat, 'sorry to tell you I've a cold sore so there won't be any snogging tonight handsome, you'll just have to impress me with your conversation skills instead'.

Annoying to have to wait till date 3 to check they can kiss though! But what can you do, it is what it is.

I know.. I know!! No way I'm going to risk passing it on. Gutted.

Tbf I'm not sure how catchy they actually are. I assumed mine were coldsores until told differently by my GP as they were linked to something else. And I kissed a fuck ton of people in my youth...mostly involving booze though haha. Maybe alcohol kills it on the lips.

Guess it's safer not to risk it though.

They are super catchy. I've been putting alcohol on and it does stop it in its tracks.
My ex boyfriend 20 years ago passed them to me, we ended up with them all over our mouths because we couldn't resist. No way I'd do that now.

Just be honest and don't kiss , it's not fair to spread it.

So many people carry the virus that he might have it already.

I'd make an excuse and cancel also use zoviarax apply ever couple of hours, it's magic.

@dementedpixie yes but he'll still catch one! And spread it around my lips at the same time.

I was just saying you cant pass it to him if he already carries the virus. I wouldn't kiss him if your cold sore is active though. Dh gets cold sores but I've never had one. I could still be a carrier but not get the blisters.

@dementedpixie ah okay. That's lucky you don't get them.

I think I’d cancel.

I’d cancel too.

I certainly wouldn't cancel if your date is today. It's flakey. Just go and be upfront.

I’d cancel, say I was unwell and reschedule for next t weekend.

I wouldn’t go on a second date with a cold sore personally

The situation also gives you a good opportunity to see how he reacts to being told 'no'. For example if he was a guy only looking for fun, he might resent having to spend the evening with you knowing nothing sexual can come of it. And that might show through in his behaviour.

How bad does it look? I don’t know if you should be too honest / open about it. I would be tempted to say you’re not feeling well.

It's tonight. I'm not going to cancel, I'm looking forward to it although it's going to be gutting when we can't kiss.
Thanks everyone.

15 years ago I tried to cancel a first date (with my now husband) because I had a cold sore. I told him it was a cold sore, and he said not to be silly and please come.

don’t let a cold sore spoil your fun, they never look as terrible as they feel!

@Chickenwing2 aw! Did you try and cancel thinking you were going to kiss on your first date? I didn't have the guts on our first, wish I had now!

Yes, but more so because I was embarrassed at the way it looked. He kissed me anyway

Yeah don't cancel! Ask him if he has ever had a cold sore. Chances are high he has the virus already and then can't catch it again.