Wedding invite

[Greenwoodstems]

I am getting to the point where I am sick of my BF being regarded by his mates as the “single” friend. Yet another weekend, yet another invite…for him. Apparently we haven’t been together long enough for me to warrant an invite, but I really am getting sick of it all. We are in our 40s, trying to make a go of it, and another weekend is ruined with him attending a friends wedding where I don’t rank. Pissed off beyond measure.

This happened to a family member - she'd been with the bf for a couple of years on/off but unexpectedly got pregnant and they decided to make a go of it. She wasn't included on a wedding invite and told BF that as they were now living together and expecting a baby, she should be seen as a permanent fixture and that he should ask for an invite for her.
He didn't want to do that, felt embarrassed etc, but in the end did ( after a lot of pushing) and the invite was issued immediately. He was from a "don't make a fuss " background, she was from a " talk about it all" background.. . He had to make the friend group see that she was no longer just as casual squeeze, but hadn't really understood that until it was spelled out.

Does he understand how upset you are?
Has he told the B&G that you are his long term partner?

You don't live together and your relationship is under 2 years. As a friend I woudnt have included you during the day but the evening..if it was a sibling it would be different. Weddings are expensive.

OP says earlier that the bride told OP her partner would be on the singles table "because you won't mind", presumably with a tinkly little laugh. Haha we're pretending you don't exist at our wedding. Charming!

OP, the lack of invite wouldn't bother me as they are his friends not yours (you've only been around for 18 months, it's not that long) but the singles table issue would make me cross.

Yes, why make that point about the singles table?

Hard to know without context. But there may be no where else suitable to seat him… and it doesn’t necessarily mean they are actually single. He isn’t. It may be the case that there’s just a group of people on their own because their partners aren’t coming/ invited. I’d only be concerned if it was actually a table of single (attractive) women… 🫣

There’s been 3 in the last six months. Realistically they ruin the day of the wedding and then most of the day after when it comes to getting up late, travelling back and not being up for a good night the following day.

The context is there is a football table with 5 of his mates and partners, but it’s “great to sit him at the singles table to make sure there are even numbers of boys and girls” 🙄