Red flag or not?

[rubberduck68]

Date three with a man who up until last night had not been too weird (yes, that is how low the bar is in the mid-fifties dating pool). He claims to be a member of the labour party, a “socialist”, anti-royal and anti-aristocracy. He’s flexed activism, including anti-fox hunt protests. He is a bit preachy, which I was hoping would ease off (a lot of Lenin, Marxism, Orwell quotes). Last night he revealed his ex of nine years was a fox hunter, and that she was raised as “aristocracy.” I questioned how he can have those beliefs and date her, and he said, “Well, we are not who we date, are we?” I joked that he must have an apolitical dick, because nothing would shut my foo faster than a fox hunter toff. He didn’t like that at all. I am getting red flag vibes. AIBU?

Yeah, he also did that raised first solidarity thing at one point after quoting some socialist stuff... which felt a bit... performative.

Guess I probably went through the same pretentious phase - but apart from still having some BB vinyl, I grew out of it by about age 20?

Fix another date. Wear a MAGA hat and matching t shirt.
What a boring arsehole. Honestly, who wants to listen to that for hours on end.
Entirely performative.

I'm actually starting to like him a bit now, did he wear a beret?

Oh my f*kn God 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Who does that

Maybe it's so deeply uncool that it's cool? 🤔

Missing the point but I loathe fox hunters. My grandmother owned a farm and she refused to have them on her land. Like a lot of actual real farmers she said it was destructive of property and cruel and plain nasty.
And Gran was a proper hard case. And fox hunting has been illegal rightly so for many years in this country.
I utterly hate fox hunters.

TBH, I think your comments was weird....he sounds annoying, but not necessarily a red flag.

Yip this !

I had another date with him last night, and although the political posturing was limited, the "stories" were out again (what my friend calls "This one time at band camp" behaviour😂) in that I would say something and then he'd attach it to a story about himself. As I think I've already said, this seems to happen a lot, not sure why I am attracting this type of man. I do find it tedious, the flow of conversation kind of jarred, especially as sometimes the response from them is not really that relevant to what I've just said, when the natural follow-on is to ask something else, which I do with them. No fifth date that's for sure.

Sounds like a good call. Sometimes you meet someone and soon think ‘we could be good friends and no more’ but doesn’t seem like this one really earns a place in friendzone either. If you can’t be friends you got nothing to build on…..

As I think I've already said, this seems to happen a lot, not sure why I am attracting this type of man.

There's a lot of them out there and all the other women throw them back, so they just keep swimming opening their gobs wide in the hope that some butterfly'll land in it.

@DucklingSwimmingInstructress is spot on.

it isn’t you OP. I think it’s a big mistake we make when we assume we are the problem. It ends up with us second guessing ourselves.

even in your 20’s you had to kiss a lot of frogs. The problem is when you are 40+, the frog to prince ratio is even greater.
I can’t decide whether men get worse as they get older or it’s simply that you notice their crap behaviour more.

Women tend to get more interesting with age and men less.

there are decent men out there, but you do have to wade through a lot of crap!