First time in bath with bf. I'm shy about my wobbly bits! Ideas/tips please!

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For a while now, my bf of a year has been hinting how much he'd love us to share a romantic bath together.. Maybe with candles and bubbles. We've had a few hotel stays where he's hinted about wanting to do this, but I've felt too shy and self-conscious each time so we didn't do it. I really feel I'd like to try it, but how do I overcome my shyness at being butt naked in front of him? Might sound silly considering we've been together a year, but he's never seen me full naked before. Whenever we're intimate, I usually keep a top on. I have a couple of scars on my back and one on my front which I'm a bit conscious of. I know he loves me as I am though. I also have a mum-tum (overhang from baby weight that I'm still carrying more than 5 years on).
Which positions in the bath would be most comfortable and flattering for the first time we bathe together? I'm thinking if he gets in first, then I get in front of him but will my back to him... Would give him easy access to the bits he likes to play we lol. It's his birthday next week, so would love to do this bath thing as a surprise for him because I know he's been wanting it for a while. Just need to overcome my shyness!

Ps: Forget to add, I also get spots on my back and upper arms, so they make me self conscious too :(

Candlelight might give you more confidence. I would think being in first in the bubbles would too!

Just no. Sounds lovely and romantic, but actually is totally awkward and uncomfortable.

This.

There is no sexy way to exit a bathtub.

We've managed many happy years together without sitting in a bath at the same time. If you don't fancy it, don't do it.

Unless the bath tub is abnormally enormous, it’s going to be anything but romantic because two adults can’t fit in one. My advice would be to try and approach the entire thing with humour, and my concern would be his disappointment with the occasion rather than with your body. Honestly, on the few occasions I have tried to have a bath with others, it is nothing like the movies. It involves quite a bit of splashing, slipping about, trying to squeeze limbs where they don’t fit, and one person nearly drowning whilst the other one gets freezing cold above the water line. Or you’re both scrunched up at either end, thanking God that it’s one with taps in the middle so that one of you doesn’t have taps in their back, and both of you being cold.

But if he insists, and can’t see the funny side, I would honestly try not to worry about your body. He fancies you enough to have been with you for this long. You’ve had sex so he’s seen you in that degree of vulnerability, and it’s not put him off. Easier said than done I know. But there are bigger fish to fry like not drowning or singeing your pubes on the candles!

Agree. Been there, it’s awkward and uncomfortable and pretty pointless.

can you compromise with a candlelight shower? Get some body scrub stuff (or make it using sugar & lotion) and get those melty scented things and a loofah or two?

What sort of size are you both? If you’re quite slim you might manage it. But standard bathtubs are quite small and this is probably one of those things that’s better left as a nice idea.

Also, if you’re sitting back towards him with back acne that also might not be that lovely.
What about some shower fun instead?

Agreed. There is no bathtub big enough to accommodate two people comfortably. It's not a romantic thing to do.

Candlelight, loads of bubbles in the water and he comes in the bathroom when you're already in the bath

My number one tip is, he knows your basic body shape and no man is scrutinising a naked woman for faults, he'll just be thinking 'YAY, NAKED WOMAN!'

I did once actually poll guys on a busy (other) website I'm on as to whether they had ever been disappointed in seeing a woman naked/wished she'd put her clothes back on and I can assure nearly a hundred guys replied that no, they had never felt let down on seeing a naked woman.

You get in the bath first, bubbles, candles and you can decide the light level so you might blow some candles out. He then waits for you to call him through and he gets in behind you and you slowly move backwards so as not to move the water too much and so that you don't squish his balls when you lie back on him. He can then get out first too and you get out after him. Up to you at the time if you want to do that part in front of him.

As above baths and showers sound great but don't always work out the way you think they will but as long as you go into it with it being a bit of fun then you should both be fine. A normal bath tub might not fit his legs down the side of you. The only time Dh and I have ever been in a bath together was a massive one in a hotel.

However, you can do this in a bed, him behind you propped up and you in front of him in between his legs. More comfortable, more room and if things start heating up then easier to have sex.

Baths together are so overrated!

I agree it sounds lovely but not for me.

Came here to say this 😂

Oh bless you, but this sounds all kinds of terrible.

Ah you’ve taken me back OP

baths together are lovely if they are candlelit and bubbles…

he won’t be looking for any negatives

enjoy it!!

If you're spending time in thinking - and posting on a forum - about which positions are going to be most flattering you're never to relax enough to actually enjoy it, so I wouldn't bother tbh.

As other posters have said. Awkward, too much scrambling about trying find places to fit your knees and elbows let alone your feet. You need to go somewhere with a hot tub if you must. Ugh!

Exactly this xxx

We have a bath together most sunday mornings but it’s a big bath. I’d work on your body positivity. Confidence is very attractive.

Do you cover up all the time?

Agreed unless you find somewhere with a big double bath then it could be awkward (or you are both pretty petite).

Book a hot tub weekend together (but don’t have sex in the hot tub).

Dont fart

Huh? Our bathtub is big enough. We frequently bathe together.