He likes cheerleader costumes…?

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Chatting with this guy who seems to be a total gentleman. I had an event that required a careful wardrobe selection and in discussing my shopping asked him what his taste in clothing is. It was meant to to invite his style - casual, elegant, formal, etc. He replied that he loves my quirky dress style and how much personality I have, that it comes through in my clothing. Then he added “in the bedroom I like short skirts tall boots, schoolgirl and cheerleader costumes.” Say what!
What would you make of it?

Oh he's into little girls. Cute.

What women has ever said in the bedroom I like you to look like a young boy who still goes to school? Anyone?
I wonder if he'd be as keen on that idea where he dresses up or is it all about the women doing what he wants.
I'd highly assume he is immature and does unfortunately consume lots of porn. It unfortunately will usually be the tip of the iceberg to his sexual basement.

I personally wouldn't even want a friendship with this man.

Ewww, the fact that you’ve not met him and he’s bringing up bedroom role play is gross. Deeply crass and inappropriate, I’d be ghosting at this point!

Sorry! 🫤 but the school boy description just made me think of Jimmy Krankie with that idiotic smirk in his face! Apologies🤭

There is so much of this unwanted ‘sexy talk’ when they’ve never met us or are just acquaintances. When I was widowed 9 years ago, the first Christmas after I had a lot of cards from lovely peeps in my street. But - there was an anonymous one asking if I wanted to “talk dirty” as I must be lonely. He obvs knew me as he mentioned mine and late husbands first name.😱😱 there was a phone number…
So… I texted a “who are you?

After much smutty chat from him, I got narky and sent who the hell arr you?

It turned out to be a grubby old man from up the road, who drove a taxi and and was known for being a dirty old man in the town!! OMG!! These foul men are everywhere!!

They really are everywhere putting on a very brief act of being normal human beings.

I went on a couple of dates a year or so ago with a guy and it fizzled out. He contacted me recently saying he’d thought about me a lot and maybe we could start again. I’d thought he was a decent bloke so said ok and the 3rd message from him was ‘I’ve fantasised for so long about tasting your pussy’

And he’s 60 ffs

No there was no meet up 🤣

So.....underage / barely legal girls

He's shown you what he is

Believe him

Yuck, goodbye.

Oh my god ! I'm so sorry that happened to you after you'd lost your husband. That really is the lowest of the low 😢 It just shows the depths some of them sink to - no care or thought to the fact you were grieving. I hope you're doing ok now 🌹
No worries about mentioning the Krankies hehe 🤣🤣 my kids torment me with them because they know how much I hate them, it's a standing joke lol. They're so creepy!!

My post was implying, if not clearly stating that Dallas Cowboys cheer leaders are athletes, over a certain age often with families themselves....

Regardless of what you would LIKE to think...

Men in their 30s, 40s, 50, 60s until death prefer a female form that is natural. Hopefully from the age of 18+

However, those of us with teenage daughters will remember when men started leering at them as they drove by.
11 years old in my daughters case.

So I don't know what your point is. Clearly you misinterpreted my DC comments and unless you've had a teen daughter being openly leered at before they knew her age, then I stand by everything previously said.

I know your husband isn't like that though. He'd silently look.

Nothing wrong in the slightest, I absolutely love dressing up as a naughty schoolgirl. A lot of people here seem overly sensitive. It’s not harming anyone.

Schoolgirls, cheerleaders, he sounds like a nonce.

Yuk. The only way I'd respond to this is by saying, I'd love to see you in a school girl outfit. Do they make them in your size?

I have a rule of "you first" to any sexual requests that are a bit over the line.

You could always lean into it by suggesting you get a strap on and peg him like a naughty girl.

It's about time men were made to feel dehumanized too.

Why?

Schoolgirl?

Pervert (being polite).

Couples dressing up isn't new or unheard of. People have all sorts of fantasies, whatever, but one of those fantasies involving children-their partner dressing as a child/teen as part of a fantasy is different in my opinion.

It's how even if it's not your thing, you might understand a woman enjoying her partner dressed as a fireman or police man, but would you understand her wanting him dressed as a schoolboy? It's quite different.

I think we all remember being teens and the creepy, disgusting old men who would leer or make comment. I still see it often today, men leaning over or craning their necks to get a better view of a school girl, or driving past and staring. It's horrible and quite scary.

Men just disappoint when you get to really know them. Time and time again 😞

Seems a bit presumptuous to be talking about "spicing up" a sex life you don't even have yet. 🙄

He might like the idea. 🙄

I’m sick of men. Stop talking to him, OP.

Oh Dear God!

Thats so yuk! 🤮 I find some men’s behaviour bizarre at times…
I have a newly divorced friend, just turning 40, who tried OLD ( Hinge and Tinder I think.) she showed me some of the responses… Hells Bells!! So many sending her dick pics before even saying hello😱 Even the “nice” ones quickly descend into “ so when will we be having sex then?
Tbh, from what I saw, the “pic” senders would be better off keeping them under wraps til after a long courtship… not nice, not nice at all..😉

I might be missing something here, but isn't he just saying he likes short skirts?

I think there's a big difference between being attracted to women in mini skirts and being attracted to actual schoolchildren.

Yeah, you're missing the second part of his comment 😂 He could have just stopped at "I like short skirts and tall boots" if that's all he was saying, he didn't have to add on the dodgy bit.

He doesn't know OP well enough to know how she'd respond to it, and I dunno why we're supposed to always give the benefit of the doubt to adult men talking about getting turned on by looks mostly associated with girls/teens.

I don't think people are overly sensitive; your username suggests that your sexual preferences may fall somewhat outside what most women enjoy.

And that’s fine as consenting sexual partners but she’s never even met this bloke yet and he’s shoehorned his sexual preferences into a conversation about normal clothes

@category12 well I guess that's entirely up to OP then I guess 😂