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Subwaystop · 2025-03-27T23:43:35+00:00

Chatting with this guy who seems to be a total gentleman. I had an event that required a careful wardrobe selection and in discussing my shopping asked him what his taste in clothing is. It was meant to to invite his style - casual, elegant, formal, etc. He replied that he loves my quirky dress style and how much personality I have, that it comes through in my clothing. Then he added “in the bedroom I like short skirts tall boots, schoolgirl and cheerleader costumes.” Say what! What would you make of it?

Tbrh · 28/03/2025 04:50

Schoolgirl ... yuk!

TwistedWonder · 28/03/2025 08:00

Have you met this man or you’re just chatting?

It’s very common and very grim for these men to want to turn chats sexual very quickly before they’ve even met you.

Its an instant delete for me - no thanks to being wank fodder for a stranger

GoAwayNow7 · 28/03/2025 09:25

Block him. And no it’s not normal.

Sifflet · 28/03/2025 09:26

BlondiePortz · 27/03/2025 23:57

I would dress as the fastest sprinter on the planet, seriously no

This.😀

Seriously, OP. Eww.

StrawberryDream24 · 28/03/2025 11:18

Maddy70 · 27/03/2025 23:48

I would assume he was joking ?

I wouldn't.

Thisshirtisonfire · 28/03/2025 11:23

It's not necessarily a red flag.. maybe it's just something he's done before and found fun. The schoolgirl thing is a bit ick but let's be honest up until recently it was a commonly accepted fantasy thing. Look at fancy dress nights and that Britney spears video! I don't think it's about fancying kids but just about a uniform and maybe a role play of someone being naughty and getting mildly disciplined?
Personally it wouldn't put me totally off however there is a risk like you said that he's obsessed with porn or something.. I'd not put up with that.

But end of the day it doesn't matter if it's normal or not it's whether you are OK with it and whether you think you'll be compatible as a couple. If it's given you the ick you have every right to end the relationship. Doesn't matter what opinions anyone else has

CocklesandMuscles · 28/03/2025 11:27

Thisshirtisonfire · 28/03/2025 11:23

It's not necessarily a red flag.. maybe it's just something he's done before and found fun. The schoolgirl thing is a bit ick but let's be honest up until recently it was a commonly accepted fantasy thing. Look at fancy dress nights and that Britney spears video! I don't think it's about fancying kids but just about a uniform and maybe a role play of someone being naughty and getting mildly disciplined?
Personally it wouldn't put me totally off however there is a risk like you said that he's obsessed with porn or something.. I'd not put up with that.

But end of the day it doesn't matter if it's normal or not it's whether you are OK with it and whether you think you'll be compatible as a couple. If it's given you the ick you have every right to end the relationship. Doesn't matter what opinions anyone else has

In what universe do you put someone you've never met in the picture about your wank fodder, uninvited, when they've asked a polite question about your taste in your own clothes in the context of them needing to dress for an important event?

It's not even that this is crass, it's just as much that it suggests someone with no basic grasp of social politeness, or how getting to know someone works.

QueefQueen80s · 28/03/2025 11:34

I’ve heard it’s more to do with how they developed their sexual interest when they were at school so school uniforms remind them of that. Whatever it is it’s grim.

Petalblossomtrees · 28/03/2025 11:35

Ugh what is wrong with these men?!! What would he say if you said you wanted him to wear a schoolboys outfit - short pants, blazer, cap? I bet he wouldn't be so keen then at looking a complete idiot. It's gross

OhMyGollyGoshGosh · 28/03/2025 11:37

It's weird that he mentioned school uniforms but that wasn't first on you're list of things that made you uncomfortable.

The rest is pretty 'standard' in what a lot of men and women like in the bedroom.

Petalblossomtrees · 28/03/2025 11:44

OhMyGollyGoshGosh · 28/03/2025 11:37

It's weird that he mentioned school uniforms but that wasn't first on you're list of things that made you uncomfortable.

The rest is pretty 'standard' in what a lot of men and women like in the bedroom.

Standard to dress as a cheerleader? I must have lived a very sheltered life because I've never been asked that!

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Subwaystop · 28/03/2025 11:47

Thisshirtisonfire · 28/03/2025 11:23

It's not necessarily a red flag.. maybe it's just something he's done before and found fun. The schoolgirl thing is a bit ick but let's be honest up until recently it was a commonly accepted fantasy thing. Look at fancy dress nights and that Britney spears video! I don't think it's about fancying kids but just about a uniform and maybe a role play of someone being naughty and getting mildly disciplined?
Personally it wouldn't put me totally off however there is a risk like you said that he's obsessed with porn or something.. I'd not put up with that.

But end of the day it doesn't matter if it's normal or not it's whether you are OK with it and whether you think you'll be compatible as a couple. If it's given you the ick you have every right to end the relationship. Doesn't matter what opinions anyone else has

For me a comment like this inadvertently reveals that this man probably spends a lot of time in porn world having sex with himself and his screen… and he imagines that I will enact for him what he’s used to experiencing in his wanker land. It’s not like we were discussing sex and kink and roleplay. He just slipped up when trying to express his taste in fashion. He also said many times that he’s a very gentle caring devoted lover who likes to be the giver… well I think the mask slipped.

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Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 28/03/2025 11:52

Schoolgirl fantasies are just revolting. That would be a hell no from me.

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Subwaystop · 28/03/2025 11:53

Petalblossomtrees · 28/03/2025 11:35

Ugh what is wrong with these men?!! What would he say if you said you wanted him to wear a schoolboys outfit - short pants, blazer, cap? I bet he wouldn't be so keen then at looking a complete idiot. It's gross

Exactly. I imagine the vast majority of people would feel ridiculous in a child’s outfit. Yes, some people won’t… but to make a comment like that off handedly to someone you’ve never slept with and pass it off as so “normal” is so unnerving.

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Subwaystop · 28/03/2025 11:54

OhMyGollyGoshGosh · 28/03/2025 11:37

It's weird that he mentioned school uniforms but that wasn't first on you're list of things that made you uncomfortable.

The rest is pretty 'standard' in what a lot of men and women like in the bedroom.

The cheerleader comment made me think this guy is into teenage girls. I think the schoolgirl comment was more of a roleplay of teacher and student which didn’t seem so much about age.

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OhMyGollyGoshGosh · 28/03/2025 11:56

Petalblossomtrees · 28/03/2025 11:44

Standard to dress as a cheerleader? I must have lived a very sheltered life because I've never been asked that!

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Nor have I, but the fact Ann Summers and other 'sexy' outlets sell them would point to the fact it's a 'thing'.

Doesn't make it right mind, but it does make it a 'thing'.

Just like 'sexy' school uniforms - Yuk!

OhMyGollyGoshGosh · 28/03/2025 11:57

Subwaystop · 28/03/2025 11:54

The cheerleader comment made me think this guy is into teenage girls. I think the schoolgirl comment was more of a roleplay of teacher and student which didn’t seem so much about age.

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There's no logic in this at all 😳

Roleplay of teacher/student is still about age.

TwistedWonder · 28/03/2025 11:59

If you were already in a sexual relationship and discussing your fantasies/turn ons then fair enough but to bring it into a conversation about normal clothes with someone you barely know - he’s holding his phone either one had and using the other one on his cock

notacooldad · 28/03/2025 12:02

I would assume he was joking ?
I wouldn't.

Everyothernamewasalreadyinuse · 28/03/2025 12:04

Exactly, if it was not about age, then it could easily be naughty secretary punished by boss type thing.

Cheerleader and Schoolgirl - I hope you asked him what exactly turned him on about the fantasy of having sex with a teenager

LoveSandbanks · 28/03/2025 12:05

I’m in my 50’s and I didn’t marry my first boyfriend, nor my second. I’ve never dressed up in the bedroom in anything other than a set of matching underwear. Drunken conversations with girlfriends has never revealed my friends doing this either, despite a lot of other things being brought up!

he’s a perv, frankly.

yesweknow · 28/03/2025 12:09

Thisshirtisonfire · 28/03/2025 11:23

It's not necessarily a red flag.. maybe it's just something he's done before and found fun. The schoolgirl thing is a bit ick but let's be honest up until recently it was a commonly accepted fantasy thing. Look at fancy dress nights and that Britney spears video! I don't think it's about fancying kids but just about a uniform and maybe a role play of someone being naughty and getting mildly disciplined?
Personally it wouldn't put me totally off however there is a risk like you said that he's obsessed with porn or something.. I'd not put up with that.

But end of the day it doesn't matter if it's normal or not it's whether you are OK with it and whether you think you'll be compatible as a couple. If it's given you the ick you have every right to end the relationship. Doesn't matter what opinions anyone else has

Let's all be polite about men fancying schoolgirls. It's just harmless fun that everyone used to do in the old days. Those men who follow girls in the street after school are just lost and the ones who approach young girls are just being friendly.

LuckyPlumWriter · 28/03/2025 12:11

I think the real red flag was he introduced it randomly when you were chatting about something else (assume this is a dating app).

Unfortunately this is quite common - guys with a good profile trying to slowly turn a chat into sex talk to wank over.

Have you even met in person yet? I find it best to have minimal chat then meet.

Anyone can say they're anything online with a few copied photos.

He may well be married or a teenage kid or in another country, not even who he says he is.

I've found it easier to keep things on the app and just block immediately if anything like this comes up, they know what they're doing.

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Subwaystop · 28/03/2025 12:28

LuckyPlumWriter · 28/03/2025 12:11

I think the real red flag was he introduced it randomly when you were chatting about something else (assume this is a dating app).

Unfortunately this is quite common - guys with a good profile trying to slowly turn a chat into sex talk to wank over.

Have you even met in person yet? I find it best to have minimal chat then meet.

Anyone can say they're anything online with a few copied photos.

He may well be married or a teenage kid or in another country, not even who he says he is.

I've found it easier to keep things on the app and just block immediately if anything like this comes up, they know what they're doing.

I’ve not met him but I don’t know him through the app. I know him through a mutual friend and knew enough about him to think of him a decent person and have reasonable expectations. I think if it was on the app I’d be much quicker to just roll my eyes and move on.

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Cucy · 28/03/2025 12:28

I would care less about the outfit choices and care more about the fact that he brought up sex in an irrelevant conversation.

A gentleman wouldn’t do that.