Im looking for a sanity check please.
DH and I got in to a fairly big row this morning and as always I’m the one being portrayed as the guilty party.
We have two DC 5/7 and have agreed months ago that they won’t have any devices before school. This is because on the days I take them I cannot get them off of their devices and it leads to upset and unnecessary stress for me and DC.
it’s been going really well and we’ve all noticed a positive change.
last week DH reintroduced their games consoles in the morning without any discussion or any reason. I spoke to him at the time and explained it really impacts DCs behaviour and causes lots of issues.
he agreed but this morning DC told be they played consoles yesterday and kept pestering me for them.
when DH came down I asked him to try to stick with what we’d agreed or at least let’s work together to find a solution. I was jolly and calm as it’s only a passing thing and I thought we’d easily navigate it.
he starts banging cupboard doors and huffing. Getting in a real sulk. When I asked what was wrong and if he was in fact sulking he started raising his voice while accusing me of being aggressive.
he then told me I’m forcing him to parent my way and that the conversation is over. While shouting over me while I tried to reason with him.
i told him he can’t dictate all conversation in our home and he storms off shouting I’d never treat you this way.
He can never hear anything negative about himself and many conversations go this way.
Apparently I have to expect him to be furious whenever I make any comment that doesn’t show him as the star of the show and then let him go away and cool off before expecting him to hold a reasonable conversation.
this feel ridiculous to me. Am I wrong?!