Has your partner ever said he hated you?

[DoesthislookgoodOnMe]

Exactly that. Had a petty arguement with my dp which brought up a few unresolved issues or things i harbour resentment towards. He said to me “ You’re going to make me hate you”. I don’t think there’s any going back from that. He’s not sorry either, I told him I was upset at work and he said “ I hope that’s because you upset me”.

Id bet my mortgage that he’s absolutely fine. (Not saying he doesn’t have an underlying condition) and he’s manufactured this “crisis” to draw you back in.

If he carries on bothering you and you need an out. Just tell him you've been diagnosed with some chronic illnesss, where your needs will always come before his. If he is a true narc you won't see him for dust. Narcs dont like being rejected and can be annoying, where if you become a burden they will f off willingly. That's better than having to deal with the smear campaign.

Is so weird as whenever I have been really sick, he’s really looked after me and surprisingly brought me lots of flowers which contradicts his usual tight wad antics. Also taken time off of work to drive me to hospital and back.
I cannot reconcile all this behavior with how he was the other day. I do know from when I was there yesterday he was stressed trying to organise his mums hospital apps and also his dad called him as an applicant had broke down so he needed to order another one ect ect.

Turns out he had bad acid reflux! So not life threatening though he was still saying hr could have died alone! 🧐

I have left things open with him and am taking a break away from him. I am ashamed to say I do love him and I think the hard line I took with him made him sit up straight. But the tightness with money .., it’s an awful thing, so off putting.

What a surprise, not! 🙄