Just left my husband

[Katsh]

After nearly 30 years together I've finally left my husband. Things have been rough for quite a while and we decided to separate nearly 2 years ago. I said I couldn't do it anymore - he wanted to try to fix things but we've been here before and I can't keep repeating the cycle. We went to see a counsellor etc but for me it was all over. We've stayed in the same house since then as our youngest is 17 and I hoped we could co-parent until she finished school. However I couldn't cope with it emotionally and have finally moved out. It's been a week and I am all over the place. Missing him, but also relieved. Sad that I've had to leave my child, having been the main carer for all our kids for the past 25 years. I went on a date last week. I'm on Bumble looking for men and women. I'm sad and I'm confused and is this all normal ?!?!?!

I'd suggest you can't be ready for a relationship until you're able to be on your own, and jumping into dating this quickly suggests you're not. You're looking to fill a gap, metaphorical or otherwise, and that isn't healthy for anyone.

No-one wants to be someone else's rebound.

I divorced last autumn after 25 years, 2 teens. Last thing I would currently attempt is another relationship.
There was no major incident causing my divorce but I recognise I need time to process and get to know myself before even contemplating diving back in.

Wait until you are less all over the place and have your shit together? Sorry if that sounds brutal but online dating takes a thick skin and the strongest position to be in is not needing anyone else.

thanks for all the responses. I guess every situation is different, and it's helpful to think through my own, from other people's perspectives. I've deleted the dating apps! I don't think I need the time that some of you suggest - I've been 'alone' for a long time already, and have done a huge amount of work on understanding myself etc, but possibly week 1 has too much going on in it for me to think about dating as well ... 😊