Do you still search for your ex on social media?

[MN2025]

Just curious really?

I check every so often. He's still with the woman that he got together with just after he dumped me, so round about 40 years ago. Still not married, no children.

It makes me feel good about my life.

Yes, I look them up a few times a year. Actually, a few I’m still distant friends with. Even went to one’s wedding with Dh. But I mean the others. I’m very nosy and a tad judgmental, so I check every so often, half expecting one or two might be in prison. 😂 So far, none are banged up, but one has married a woman his mum’s age, which is grim, but interesting. 😳

No. I blocked him immediately and the other woman.

Occasionally. He married a gorgeous woman but it didn't last. I felt sad for him but relieved that I'd ended it when I did. I was crazy about him once. Then one day he said to me "If you can cook five amazing meals I'll marry you"... My eyes nearly fell out of my head. Cooking did not interest me at all at age 24. I said "Well bad luck I'm not planning to get married" 😅😅

Nope only thing I'd have any interest in seeing is his obituary.

No, but strangely I have several exes on LinkedIn (since I can’t find a way to de-connect without going on their profile which they would get a notification about), so I see their career updates.

No.

If you go to your own profile, click on the part under your photo where it says the number of connections you have and then there is an option to remove connection next to each person.

Love the self awareness and honesty 🤣

Yes, just out of nosiness.

Weirdly, earlier this evening I searched for him (broke up last year) and I found a second secret FB account for him.

All his family are on there and presumably his secret wife.

No, couldn't give a shit.

Nope. I have zero interest in who he’s with or what he’s doing.

We did have some ‘small talk’ communication for sporadically after we split but that stopped a while ago . I don’t miss it or him. I am no longer on edge 24/7. Happily single and seeing my friends go through shit with their partners remind me - STAY SINGLE!!!!

I have before yes, but it's literally out of sheer morbid curiosity and 'just because I can '. I don't feel anything whilst I'm nosing - it's pure 'curtain twitching '

I think probably quite a lot of people do it.

But then I've found myself on Clare who's house I went round for tea when I was 5's sisters husbands brothers page 😂

This thread inspired me to have a nose. I know from DD's half-sister that he is not doing well. He got dumped by a long-term partner, started a new relationship, and got dumped within a few months, and has been in and out of an MH crisis.

His FB is private so I can only see the photo updates but he looks rough. It looks like he has aged 10 years in a couple of years and it looks like he has lost a lot of weight and looks gaunt.

No. Zero interest

I blocked my ex on LinkedIn. Surely if you go to their profile and immediately block them, they won't get notified.

Not a chance in hell. I don't care about his life.

Yes, every now and again. Just out of curiosity. But found out by doing that my 1st love died aged 35 2 years ago leaving behind 3 children. No idea how. Was quite difficult to not contact his mum. I still contemplate if I should and send her all the pictures I have of him because I know that as a parent I would want everything like that if it happened to my child but just think it would be a bit weird after 14 years!

God, no. Never even occurred to me to do so, tbh. I have done with an ex best friend though. I guess I was more invested in her!

Years ago I worked for a service that assisted vulnerable people. One day the mum of the guy I'd lost my virginity to rang us to get help for him. It really shook me to hear how badly his life was going.

Yes, occasionally - every few years, out of nosiness. (Also search for old acquaintances, school mums, colleagues, uni friends, in fact anyone whose full name I know that is not so common to throw up lots of duplicates).

Yes I do

Nah. I do wonder how they are doing from time to time but I also have no desire to ever meet them again. They are my ex’s for a reason.

No. It doesn't interest me in the slightest.

No hard feelings or anything. I just don't think about any of them.

No. I blocked him on everything but the phone, email and WhatsApp because we share a child. I only contact him when absolutely necessary. And I couldn't be less interested in what he gets up to.