Do you still search for your ex on social media?

[MN2025]

Just curious really?

Yes, far too regularly!

I suspect most people wouldn’t admit to this if they’re in new relationships though.

From time to time, yes. Although neither he nor his now wife has posted an update in nearly five years now, disappointingly (I checked again just now!). I’m so glad I didn’t marry him. She is a much better match for him than I ever was.

No, I do Google him occasionally to keep up with his latest convictions though 🙄

Never checked on my ex (split up about 17 years ago).

Do check (carefully so he doesn't know) on my current crush though 🤦‍♀️

Yes. Just to be nosey and check they’re ok really.
No other reason.

DS keeps me up to date on XH

I did a couple of times to begin with, I wanted to see negatives about his amazing new life. It didn't take long to realise that any news of him, even any thoughts of him, were doing me no good at all so I stopped looking.

He's still looking at mine though, he will until he's no longer able.

In your situation, as you have lots of photos you can share with her, I’d be tempted to contact his Mum or maybe a sibling if he had any. Say that you’d seen he’d died, you were very sorry for their loss and that if they’d like you have lots of photos of him from the time you shared together if they’d like them.

How do you know he looks at yours? This has me worried regarding my own occasional stalking streak!

Me too 😳😬😂

Yes, two are now university professors, and there are you tube videos of them giving lectures on their research at various conferences 😳 wouldn’t admit to actually watching them to anyone irl

Mine's not on social media but we are in touch very occasionally, like on birthdays. I know what he's up to.

Totally this.

Yes, but only the two from school, one from just after uni got in touch having spotted we had mutual connections on LinkedIn (he's done well for himself but doesn't seem to be married or have kids). Others no, not even sure I remember the last name of one who I would have died for at uni!

(None in prison, the one I thought would end up there for drugs actually became an English teacher and the other was a teacher too...)

Blocked to fuck 🤣 except one keeps making new accounts and sending “hi how are you” messages. She’s absolutely bonkers

No.

I think my ex follows me on a burner account though. He pops up and texts me without fail if I post anything exciting. We stayed friendly enough to check in every once in a while.

I do every now and again out of curiosity (and to feel gratitude at how life turned out that I didn't end up married to any of them!)
There is an ex I keep an eye out for on LinkedIn as he works in an industry which is somewhat connected to the one I work in and I have anxiety about him popping up at a conference or worse, becoming a client or something... I check his profile with ALL the privacy settings on once in blue moon to make sure he hasn't moved too close to my professional orbit. It was quite a damaging relationship as he was very, very charming but pretty awful behind closed doors. I reckon I could handle it if our paths crossed in a worl setting but I want to be fore-warned!

Good god no i have better sense than chase the past and check on twats.
They are exs for a reason if i never see them again it would be to soon.
I dont believe in keeping ex`s as friends either.
I dont hate any of them because hate is still a feeling they are just not important to me anymore.
If someone becomes unimportant there is no feelings at all left.

Every now and again and usually I shudder and laugh to myself at the state of him.

We have a lot (over 200) mutuals on FB so Ive seen him tagged in photos a few times which is usually when I have a nose

All I ever think now is ‘wtf was I doing’ when I look now

His name came up on one of the platforms as someone I might want to follow. There is nobody with any connection to him that I already follow on that platform and nothing that would have been of interest to him so I am surmising that he was having a nosey. It would be typical, he is a very nosey man.

now and then they change their profile photo so it shows they are still married, other than that im not fussed.

linkedin is more for seeing ex collegues profiles and current duties / roles

but this is what puzzles me depending on your settings etc why do some seem omg when someone does look up a profile as surley thats the point of social media ? obviously if its good intentions

Ah, I see. I do get these suggestions but thought if it wasn't a connection in common situation it was if you had their phone number as Meta seems to know everything going on in every area and conversation of my life!

Yes out of boredom and just being nosy generally. I would be devastated if DP kenw about this and thought I had any romantic interest in my them. Perhaps i should stop just in case.

My ex has checked my linked in profile countless times in the last year - does he not realise I get notifications? He's recently remarried so no idea why he is checking up on me.