Hi. Am AIBU or is my partner just being a HUGE jerk? I’m 15 weeks pregnant and work 4 days a week, 3 in the office, 1 from home. 1 day a week I’m with our toddler daughter who is 2. Today, I’ve played with her all day, baked with her, taken her to the park, painted with her etc etc. During her nap I also cleaned the kitchen, unloaded and reloaded dishwasher, did two loads of laundry, put away clean laundry, swept kitchen. Fed and bathed her. At 6:45pm I am absolutely shattered, partner has just finished work. I ask if he can read her stories and do bed time so I can finally rest. He rolls his eyes and moans about how tired he is from work (he WFH). I moan back about how I’m pregnant so really need to rest, and recite everything I’ve done today. Turns into a huge argument, he’s screaming and swearing at me (I’m arguing back but not swearing or shouting) telling me I haven’t done ‘fuck all’ in weeks and pregnancy is an excuse. Tells me our family think this baby is a bad idea because I offshore domestic duties to him. Generally really nasty. I’m absolutely fuming. As usual, I had to calmly walk away with our DD, take her upstairs and ignore him, or he doesn’t stop. We don’t fight that often but when we do he goes nuclear. Serious anger issues and respect. The baby obviously didn’t like it because I felt him/her jab me several times :(
how can I get him to value and respect me and what I do, and get him to understand how exhausting it is being pregnant whilst caring for a toddler, managing an almost full time job and largely being responsible for all household duties (except cooking, he largely does that.) It’s really hurt me and I’m raging tbh.
any advice appreciated…