What are your beige flags in a partner?

[ThisPlumShark]

Basically somewhere in the middle between red and green
I would say religion don't care either way.

Someone who lacks ambition. People who don’t leave the house.

All I know is, I’m not even going to worry about any flags for any other man ever in my life! I have a DH but would never be serious about anyone else to ever again except FWB when it suits me! We keep it all separate - accounts, living arrangements, families, family events etc 😁 I am not interested in the slightest.

Talks about work all the time boring

Obsessed with there Walking Steps pretends to be into fitness gym but really eats rubbish
Plays Golf all the time and thinks there a football expert but has no clue
Thinks they are a wine expert / connoisseur !

Beige flags for me would be not having good chat, unable to be spontaneous, restrictive eating habits...anything that would suck joy and excitement from my life basically

Oh god I'm dating a sci fi, gym going (with the little book), sleep scorer. He's lovely though and we do fantastic stuff together. He's also very hot (see previous reference to gym going). For me it's claustrophobic targeted guitar playing

Never heard the term beige flags before!
Mine would be
Stingyness
Self absorbed
Obsessed with a hobby /sport
Lack of empathy
Unwillingness to compromise
No conversation
No interest in going to the theatre (as I love going!)
Doesn't do fair share of household chores

I'm long out of the dating pool, but inability to make conversation would be one for me.
Another one would be white guys who are obsessed with Japan and all things Japanese, and who fetishized the country as some kind of magical perfect anime land.
I'm also low-key wary of guys who are REALLY into yoga. Sometimes the people who present themselves as being the most tolerant, balanced and spiritual people can be the most manipulative and batshittery crazy. Maybe I am projecting because I had a friend who dated a guy who taught yoga on the side and he was an absolute raging narcissist beneath the calm yogic exterior and he left her self esteem in tatters.
Guys who are really into crypto are a beige flag. I personally know some crypto enthusiasts who are genuinely lovely and decent men, but being into crypto is often a comorbidity with other undesirable (to me) behaviours and attitudes 😅 I'm talking stuff like libertarian beliefs, being into conspiracy theories

ok, man here so will get slated I guess.
Women bitching about each other.
Grumpy mornings.
Remembering stuff you said after a drink, that you can't remember yourself.

Ah, so someone with signs of being boring, right! I was so confused!

People who think a man doing [society-dictated 'feminine' thing] makes them 'girly' or 'unmasculine'
People who have an issue with vegans
People who can't cite any actual facts or evidence for their soundbite beliefs
People who won't even try any food from certain cultures
People who think 'nerdy' stuff is 'weird'
Actually, anyone who thinks unusual hobbies are 'weird' full stop and is just negative about them. I don't mean 'well, it's personally my worst nightmare, LARPing, but you have fun!' I mean 'why would you want to do that, it's just so weird, I don't see how you can find that fun' attitudes.
People who read the Daily Mail (also a red flag for me)
People who like to initiate conversations with people they've just met or barely know about immigration or trans rights or how feminism is hurting men. (Also a red flag - if we've known each other for a while and it comes up, or the conversation naturally progresses there, but it never does, it's always a sharp right turn into controversial topics and these people are never able to point me to any sources for their information, they just repeat headlines, so it's such a boring discussion!)

You've a lot. I'll bet you get really wound up by people quite easily?

Aye, there are some very, very angry people in this thread judging by the content and quantity of their "beige" flags. 😮

I listed 7 things, there are people on this thread who've listed more than that in their replies, so... not sure why you've just replied this to mine?
Is it because I provided an explanation for some of my statements? If so, I didn't realise explaining a statement you've made might indicate to someone that you were 'wound up' about something, that's interesting, not encountered that interpretation before.
And to answer your question - no, i don't really get wound up about it! Just mentally note what I've learnt about that person and move on with my life.

Apologies, 8 things!

I only read that one, haven't scrolled through everyone else's.

OMG! This is my DH!
He once argued he should be allowed a lie in based on his "sleep score"
Fucks sake, I'm tired too pal. Just because I don't have stats to back it up!

Doesn't have any friends, is not bothered by it and makes no effort with the people that try to engage with them.
Eats the same foods out of choice.
Not into clothes and buys them from solely from supermarkets out of convenience.
Stays at home watching TV every evening.
Loves their life within a very narrow bandwidth of comfort.
Complains too much. Glass is not just half empty, it's half empty and dirty and too far away and wrong temperature.

Football fan

Male and breathing from now on.
My beige flagometer has got so mixed up with the red one that my judgement can no longer be trusted.
I'm getting more chickens instead.

Someone with nothing interesting to say, doesn’t like eating, doesn’t drive

Dog owner
Hiker/mountaineer/outdoorsy types
Anyone who asks me for coffee on a 1st date
Police officer

Self importance and over talking. Not having a settled place to live.

I think people are very much misunderstanding what a beige flag is and just listing things they can't stand.

As the OP says - a beige flag is things you're not really bothered about either way, not relationship dealbreakers that would put you off someone.

@ItGhoul

I agree.

im also very confused by this discussion and what qualifies as a beige flag.

Aren't they things that indicate that a relationship with a person would be very boring?

E.g. dating a couch potato or someone who read nothing except gossip mags.

Gaming
Cycling
Fishing