He cancelled on me last minute

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

Long story short. Had a date planned yesterday. He asked if I was still ok for today at 10 in the morning. Never heard off him all day since. He then said one hour before the date. When I just started getting ready “sorry I think I need to cancel because I got a bit delayed. Not a good impression I know. I get it if you don’t want to hear off me again” so I said “yeah that’s not great if I’m honest. I have nothing to say. Better we just leave it because you had all day and knew it was happening so it’s hardly like this took you by surprise”
he replied saying “ yeah well I told you as soon as I could. Sorry”
so I said “ look. You’re the one who double texted me pushing to a date only to cancel last minute. Now it just looks like a yiu can’t be bothered situation.” Ive had this happen to me twice in the past where men cancel at the very last minute. And eventually it hurts and drains me. I then begin to doubt myself.

Not really sure if you’re wanting responses or asking for opinions?
However things come up in life and sometimes we have to rearrange. I wouldn’t have completely cut it off for cancelling once, if it happened again then maybe so.
It seems as though you’ve taken this to heart too much.

An hour before really lacks consideration. If someone’s also saying “ I understand if you don’t want to talk again” it’s a no brainier

He didn’t even have a reason. He chickened out. OP is right to bin him off.

He wasn’t that into you. Forget about it and move on

Exactly this.

No need to doubt yourself; you haven’t chased after him and you’ve kept your dignity. This is all on him, not you. Fuck him. He’s just made room for a nice, decent man who wants to spend time with you to come along.

I wasn’t even into him much yet offered a chance

Why have you posted this again?

Yes didn’t you post the same thread yesterday OP? Has anything changed since?

Why? Why would you offer your time to someone you weren’t really into?

Are you sure you’re in the right mindset for on line dating?

If you are not that into him then you are giving him way too much head space.

Typical OLD timewaster.

I wouldn’t have bothered with a response tbh. Cancelling an hour before - he got another offer probably so not even worth a reply.

Never thought of that. It’s sad people do that though. Irs just mean spirited.

Yesterday’s thread.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5285233-i-told-him-im-not-interested

Some of us answered you yesterday. Why have you made another thread? This is what dating is like.

Given yesterdays thread - op -back off dating for a while. You're not in the right head space. You need to be completely happy YOURSELF. Then when these things happen, which they will, you just shrug, press block then do whatever you would have done if you hadn't organised a date.

Happens all the time with people you meet online. Downright rude. You don't want to waste a second more of your time on him. He would have been a pilok anyway if he thinks that is ok

It would also bother me OP and just bin him.
Block, move on

If it's a no brainer why have you posted on here asking for opinions then?

If this happens again just block them. You don't need to go into details of how you've had this done in the past and it starts to hurt after a while etc. all you are doing is boosting their ego, letting them know how upset you are about it. Block and moving on will show you have self respect and get to them far more than your short paragraph about how it's made you feel.

He couldn't be bothered. He strings women along and decides on the day, hour to hour if he's up for it. He mite have decided he would rather nap or play video games. You've dodged a bullet.

Never mind, OP, you have had a narrow escape. Some people find that sort of thing out when they are months into a relationship and you are finding out before you even start. Don't give him a second thought.

Why have you posted the same thing twice @ThePerkyCoralPoet ??

She won't answer that!

Well yeah, he's married and after attention or just playing the field. No loss. Just a sad little c*nt

Don't waste your time with him. You deserve better.