I told him I’m not interested

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

Long story short. Had a date planned. He asked if I was still ok for today at 10 this morning. Never heard off him all day since. He then said one hour before the date. When I just started getting rwadi “sorry I think I need to cancel because I got a bit delayed. Not a good impression I know. I get it if you don’t want to hear off me again” so I said “yeah that’s not great if I’m honest. Better we just leave it because you had all day and knew it was happening so it’s hardly like this took you by surprise. Ive had this happen to me twice before. And eventually it hurts and drains me. Aibu

I think I might have given him another chance if I really liked him because I do understand things happen but I also completely understand your stance and I'm not sure there is a right or wrong answer with this.

I’ve heard of this happening 100 times before on various forums or social media.

He wouldn’t have even got a reply out of me.good for you for saying no but it really does feel disheartening.

Deffo not BU OP.

That's shit. You've done the right thing. You're worth way more.

In these scenarios, I always think, if that happened to my sister, or my mum, what would I tell them to do.

Think about that, then you have your answer

Sorry you were let down, but please do something tonight that makes you feel good.

Off for a curry with my mum and dad🩵

A definite timewaster. Enjoy your curry!

Good for you!!
It doesn’t bode well if he’s going to do this for a first date so better to cut and run now. It’s shoddy and avoidable from his end.
I remember when I was dating, I had been messaging a guy for a week or so, and we had a date planned for a Saturday night and he text me about an hour before suggesting we cancel as it was raining and he didn’t fancy going out in the rain. We had planned to go to a bar. Indoors. But he then asked if I wanted to meet up the next day instead and I said no. It put me right off him and I wondered if he’d had a better offer for that night and was using me as a Plan B.

Good for you! Too many time wasters around.

Enjoy your curry.

It’s such shitty behaviour. It’s the “I understand if you want to stop talking” hell yeah I do. I said something I can’t remember and his response was “I get you’re angry. I would be too” I just told him after. I said I’m not angry. I don’t know you enough to care or be annoyed but you had all day then cancel an hour before. It comes off like you can’t be arsed. I then said. Not to mention that you were the one who double messaged me asking for a date. Only to flake? I don’t have time to waste.

What it does do is just knock me confidence.

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Don’t let any man ever knock your confidence! In future just start off with a coffee not a proper date, saves a lot of hassle if they’re not suitable when you meet.
You’ve just not met the right person, but you will! It says everything about them not being decent and being flakey, they’re the ones who are waste of space. Keep your head held high, you just dodged bullets that’s all!

I agree, - start off with a coffee/tea and go from there. Its about meeting to see if there is a spark. Unfortunately, far too many people are time wasters.

The late notice would put me off I'd say he wasn't that bothered so it wasn't really worth your effort either

Thank you. I just cried into my mums arms after and she said the same as you.

It can’t be personal, it’s entirely rude flaky patheticness on THEIR part. Hope it was an excellent curry.

It isn’t anything personal about you, honestly you have dodged a bullet! He will be one of those men you come across online dating who want to text for months and months with no meet up, then will blame you for why you have never met up. Hope you had a good curry and don’t give him another thought!

They just piss about and hope your boundaries are low enough to let them mess you about.
Easy to say, but don't let this knock your confidence as you did a fine job standing up for yourself.
Just keep doing that and you'll find someone good enough.