My partner has a son with his ex, they split up when the little boy was 6 weeks old. She initiated the separation.
She moved back with their child to live with her parents five hours drive away.
He was allowed to see the child but because he was only a baby he could not have him overnight. He used to go up and stay in a bed and breakfast and take him out in the day.
I met my partner when his son was 3 and he was still seeing him only at weekends, he was scared the little boy would forget him. His ex and her parents would not let him take him over night still.
He really pushed me to meet the ex and her parents very early on in our relationship and they liked me. After a while they said my partner could take his son over night and in holidays as long as I was there.
As things have gone on and I have a good relationship with his little boy my partners behaviour has changed towards me. He shouts a lot, can be very moody, bad tempered, mean and disrespectful. It’s confusing.
When I look back I really do think when he met me he saw me as a means to get the trust of his ex and her parents and therefore more access to his child. They clearly didn’t trust him on his own with him. I have a job working with children and I almost feel he saw me as the ideal candidate to impress his ex and her family.
I so feel he used me for this and now he has what he wants he treats me like a nanny.
Am I being paranoid? Has anyone else a similar experience? I am thinking now about leaving him, not because I don’t like looking after his son but because of his behaviour to me which is almost abusive.