My mother is mad!

[glitterfairy]

THis may be long but here we go. My mum who has been living with me for four months now has finally driven me barmy and obviuosly thinks I am mad too but I know it is her!

We had a row this morning and she has written me a letter saying she is moving out (result) but hopes I go to the doctor for help with it whatever it is.

We have always had a fraught relationship and didnt speak for two years before my daughter got born as she told me on Christmas eve one year that she had never wanted me and that she had never much liked me.

She loves my kids but since coming to live with us has called my dd 10 a bitch to her face and my ds 8 a sod and a bastard!

She has always been difficult and is currently not speaking to my brother for no reason at all that anyone can see.

At the moemnt her sister is ill in hospital so she is worried and stressed and visiting her and home only in the morning and late evening.

I am at my wits end I do not want her to stay but hate to think of her in a hotel (she has brought a flat which will be ready in Feb).

Sorry I dont usually moan but life sucks at the moment! My dh is about to go away for two weeks and is home late all the time leaving me with her.

Hiya Paps the nanny is reacting by taking the kids off to her house for safety. To be honest it was her who told me about Dd 10 being called a bitch.

Anyway have decided today that I need to try not to have anything further to do with ehr when she moves out. Dh hs siad he will be point of contact and will take the kids to see her etc so that I dont have to. The rest of my family think I am being hard but it will make me happier in the long run.

if she can afford it let her go Have a similar relationship with my mum and def couldn't live with her you deserve a medal!

I am going to let her go although god knows when she will and it is going to be a nightmare when Dh goes to the States on Saturday for two weeks no-one there to protect me from her at all.

Hang in there, Glitterfairy ? and remember, it was her who mentioned moving to a hotel in the first place, not you, so it's she who's deciding to go, not you pushing her out.
I do sympathise ? reading through this it makes me realise that a lot of us have difficult relationships with our mums . I know I couldn't live more than a week with mine (and that is probably a bit too long) so it sounds as though you've gone way beyond the call of duty putting up with her for four months! In fact, I know if my mum had been living with us for four months, DH would be filing for divorce.

Could you just ask her to leave? I can understand that that might not be an option. In situations similar-ish, I have decided that there's no possible way my mother could be more mad/whatever than she already is, so decided to do things my way.

Don't know if that makes sense. I've started drinking tea at night instead of wine... it's not helping me be more coherent in the least.

THanks everyone. She is still sulking with me and hasnt mentioned moving out again whihc is a shame. But she snapped at me this morning when I asked if she had rung my brother and said "WHen do you think I have the time?" My DH goes away until feb tomorrow and I am just thinking maybe I should take all the kids to a hotel and run away myself!

My Aunt has been dying slowly this weekend and my mum is extracting every last emotional crumb. I understand how difficult this must be as it is her own mortality she is facing and she hates physical stuff but she is going around sniffing all the time and going on about howhard everything is for her.

My brother came up and said she would have driven him mad in moments. I went to see Aunty before dh went away and she is lucid and with it regardless of anything else.

Anyway this morning she didnt speak to me at all whihc is very hard. To have a sulky person like that in my own house is difficult but now Aunty is so sick it has become impossible to do anything about it.

Thanks for asking

Nope! Maybe my phone is playing up!

Just to update everyone. My mother has informed me this evening that she is moving out on Saturday! Hurrah and Result I can have my life back am going to have a little drink Saturday night all on my own as dh away!