Gift for a guy on a first date

[YouDefinitelyShouldNotDoThat]

Hey all, I am going on a first date next week and I know that he is bringing a gift for me (something we've talked about in our chats already). He's such a lovely guy, and I'd really like to surprise him with a gift too, but I'm absolutely clueless about what to get him!
I know it might seem a bit much for a first date, but he's someone I think I'll end up being friends with whether there's chemistry or not, so I'm happy to do this.
Any ideas? He's really into his music....

I winced when I saw this, sorry! Do you know what he's got you? What if you don't like him when you meet up? That can easily happen.

With kindness OP, and as someone who went on a lot of first dates, do not so this.

You are way to invested in someone before you have even met.

Bar of chocolate? Personally I wouldn’t, but if you’ll feel bad if he’s got you something, I’d do something cheap and cheerful that can be consumed. Doesn’t everyone like music?!

Please don't do this! You have no idea how you will feel about him until you've met so save gift giving until you are further along the line. (If indeed you want to see him again.) A first date should just be a quick coffee to see if you gel in real life.

A gift on a first date... Possibly if you ve spent a fair amount of time on conversations.and video calls (months). Otherwise no.

Noooooo

Your presence is enough.

Don't

Please don't 🤦🏾‍♀️.

Please read your own username 😁

A gift on a first date? No no no no no and did I mention NO

It’s way too much and honestly it’s very cringe. If a man bought me a gift on a first date, that would probably put me off seeing him again.
A first date is a casual meet up - to bring gifts is way over inverting imo

That cracked me up 🤣🤣🤣

I wouldn't buy him a gift. That seems bizarre and OTT. If you feel generous and the date goes well then offer to pay for the meal or drinks?
I'd be put off by someone giving me presents the very first day I met them.

Please don't 🙏

I love the Ann Summers ad that has popped up in this thread.
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You have managed to do that most rare thing OP
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Agree with PP - buy him a drink on the date but please nothing more personal

If you know so little about him you're asking strangers on mumsnet for ideas based on zero information, you don't know him well enough to buy him a gift.

@CryptoFascist nailed it

Yes, it makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.

Don't even contemplate this, OP. It’s a terrible idea. Tell him you don’t want a present either, as it will just be awkward if you hate him on sight but feel you need to sit there smiling and nodding with his self-published book of poetry, his oil painting of your cat, or a mix tape of him singing ‘The Drugs Don’t Work’.

Honestly, just don't.

Just no.

Definitely don’t do this. I wouldn’t want one from him either. Too many terrible first dates and lots of awkwardness if you don’t want to see them again. I had someone I didn’t like on sight being a book and I just wanted to give it back and run away and we had got on well on message before.

Is there any context to this? As in it’s your best friend from teenage years and you are meeting up after moving to the same country? Or is he a total stranger?

What gift is he bringing you?

I agree with all 4 billion previous posters, btw.

Buy him a gift drink from the bar.