Gift for a guy on a first date

[YouDefinitelyShouldNotDoThat]

Hey all, I am going on a first date next week and I know that he is bringing a gift for me (something we've talked about in our chats already). He's such a lovely guy, and I'd really like to surprise him with a gift too, but I'm absolutely clueless about what to get him!
I know it might seem a bit much for a first date, but he's someone I think I'll end up being friends with whether there's chemistry or not, so I'm happy to do this.
Any ideas? He's really into his music....

If it helps we are now long married but I’m sure it wasn’t just the pastry..!

I think bringing a gift is quite sweet rather than cringe as well actually. If I thought he was love bombing then I'd be cautious but it's not been like that at all..

This.

Don't buy him anything, as it looks like you're trying too hard.
He's just trying to seem thoughtful but what he's "gifting" you requires minimum effort on his part as its something he already had.

You don't even know if you'd hit it off in person with him, so it needs zero investment on your part.

My boyfriend (now husband) didn't bring a present on a first date.
He called round to my house even before we had had a proper date, with a big bunch of flowers.
I was out, my mum was in, she opened the door, and disliked him at first sight.

So maybe it's not such a good idea to buy presents before you get o know someone.😁

I think I was just a bit jealous as I also liked the perfume! 😂
I thought it seemed like he really wanted to impress her but yep, she thought it was cringe.

Weirdly, a few years later, a friend had a bottle of Alien bought for her on her first date. Strange Thierry Mugler theme going on there! But she didn't find it cringe and she did see him again. 😂

We chatted about our favourite sweets online and on our first date we both brought along a bag of Tangfastics. We now have a cat and he's called Haribo 😀.

When I last did OLD, two guys brought me gifts on the first date! Maybe it's a thing 🤷‍♀️ I wouldn't go for chocolates though. One of my gifts was a local speciality from the guy's country (continental Europe) and he had made it himself. I thought that was quite sweet. The other gift was a box of chocolates which I must admit slightly gave me the ick.

I love this!!

That is sweet and something I'd find thoughtful too. Yeah, the chocs not so much. Just very cliché!

Thank you. If I thought it was love bombing I would have blocked by now, but no, he genuinely seems sweet and thoughtful. It's probably me overthinking this!

Wait and if there is a second date take an appropriate token gift then based on what you chat about.

The only gift I'd accept from a first date is a bunch of flowers. Definitely would not be buying gifts for a first date. It makes you seem desperately keen.

Oh god this. You are waaaaaay over invested.

By the time I’d been on OLD a while I cut out weeks of chat before dates. Let’s meet after a couple of days chat, see if we like each other, then we’ll chat more.

Font take a present. I’m cringing just thinking about it.

He's already got you starry eyed by telling you he's bringing a gift!

Why doesn't he say nothing and just give you a gift as an act of courtship? Flowers or a book he thinks you might like etc

Sounds like he's bugging himself up and the gift is to make you feel obligated to him in some way.

You could always get something light hearted like a Freddo Frog or packet of Percy Pigs and keep it in your bag until you decide whether it’s a good idea. If you decide it’s not a good idea you’ll have a little treat for later!

I would prefer chocolates to the long poem about my marvellousness and our hopeful future together presented on our first blind date. Set up by a friend, never clapped eyes on each other (1980s)

There was no second date but forgave introducing friend, who could only say afterwards "He can be a bit intense".

I took a mars bar for my first date with my now ex h. He took a necklace to give a friend he was meeting that he hoped would become more. She took it. Never spoke again. So I got nothing

Depends on the chocs - I’d do most things for a box of Lindt truffles 🤭

Lord no.
I hope you aren't the poster who previously posted about going on a first date and wanting to give her date a book because he was into reading and she wanted suggestions for appropriate books. Everyone said, fuck no, YouDefinitelyShouldNotDoThat!

This wasn't me, but maybe she and I should double date 🤣

I’m just hoping for your sake that when he said “gift”, it’s not him wrapped up naked in a red bow. Taaa daaaa

Oh my wow! Ok, a poem would definitely be too much for me 🤣
Brilliant anecdote though

I'm not sure the bar staff would approve of that 😜😜

My mum is in her 90s and my dad would be 100 by now if he were still alive. On their first date he paid for their tickets to the more expensive seats at the cinema and bought her a box of chocolates. She had never been given a box of chocolates before and she knew he was a keeper, she said. They were doing the same job and she was actually better qualified but he earned twice as much because he was a man.

"Dick in a box"