Is 5 weeks too soon to be in love or falling in love?

[Inlove24]

I've been seeing someone for 5 weeks, it's been absolutely perfect from the beginning, just green flags. We have seen each other about 9 times, sex is amazing as well and we also get on great.
I feel that I'm falling in love with him.
I find myself listening to love songs and thinking about him, buying him little things that I think he might like, excited before seeing him and also gutted at the thought of him ending it. I also have the urge to tell him i'm falling for him but I want to hold back in case he's not quite there yet.
So does this mean I'm in love or falling in love? Or is 5 weeks too soon to be in love with someone?

Just don't over think it. I think it's more like stages. At 5 weeks you are very much in the infatuation stage - that doesn't mean its not real, it just means you are still in the head over heels, my boyfriend is so dreamy and can do no wrong stage. It's a lovely stage to be in so enjoy it. Time will move on and hopefully you will move into the long term stage where you deal with life events, things become more 'mundane' but you become closer and more mature in your dealings with each other. Just relax, enjoy your time together and don't rush it.

Infatuation is one of the best feelings ever. It may well develop into love or equally, sometimes it is followed by a period of beginning to notice all their annoying habits or disagreeing on fundamental issues. Until you’ve been together a year there are lots of things that might cause difficulties like holidays, celebrations, how you manage money, family obligations and differences…

However I vaguely remember feeling like you do and we have been together 39 years, married 36. I did take note of all of the above and fell in love anyway.

Enjoy.

My husband and I got engaged two weeks after meeting. We got married two months after our first date. We will celebrate 38 years of marriage this September. It's not all been wine and roses, but I'd do it all over again. So while it's not common, it can work.

When you know, you know - but caution is best. Let it grow 👍

Exactly this - perfectly put - though together 19 years only

I dont believe in love.
Some do i dont but 5 weeks is a bit of a rush let things calm down and get over the honeymoon.

We fell in love very quickly, within days and were engaged a few weeks later and have been married nearly 40 years. I think sometimes it's just right.

I completely fell for my DH after talking to him for two minutes!

I was 36 at the time and I just knew he was the one. We are still very much in love ten years later.

I think it depends on your age, how often you see each other and in what circumstances - only going out for meals and cinemas it’s one thing, he was looking after you when you were unwell - another.

When you know you know.

Did you marry in the UK or go back to Karachi for the Wedding?
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I'm sorry, I couldn't resist that..😉

My DPs met and married within 6 weeks and still happily together nearly 50 years later.

I moved in with my partner after 3 months. Took us another 6 years to get married but definitely knew very quickly that it was love and a serious relationship.

I massively fancied my husband from day 1.

I think lasting love develops over time but you can definitely go from massively fancying, through beginning to trust, through starting to fall in love, to being deeply in love. And it will feel like you've always been in love. But actually you started out just massively fancying.

Enjoy the lovely, floaty,butterflies, heart skipping, excitement of the first flush of attraction and I hope that it will turn into something truly special and long lasting.

But don't rush telling him you love him just yet.

My fingers and toes are crossed for you @Inlove24

My husband and I said we loved each other after 4 weeks, that was about 28 years ago, be our 25th wedding anniversary next year. I think when you know you know.

The fact it is perfect would be a red flag in itself to me, I hope there are no children involved

I told my husband I loved him after about 5 weeks. He felt the same and was actually planning on saying it to me that day but I beat him to it. We’ve been together nearly 9 years now. So I would say it’s possible to know that you love someone after 5 weeks.

You don’t know his annoying habits yet! You are both on your best behaviour and unlikely to be being your true selves.

Have you met his family and friends and has he met yours? Those meetings always tell me a lot about a person?

Have either of you been unwell yet? How does he behave? How is he towards you?

For all of those saying when you know, you know, there's an equal amount who thought like you amd it didn't work out long term.

It's too early to tell. It could work our perfectly but it may not.

Enjoy it for what it is and don't overthing it. You can't rush the answer, only time will tell.

Infatuation and/or limerance

You’re beginning to fall in love but of course at 5wks you’d expect to see lots of green flags. I really wouldn’t say it just yet, as it is very early for many people, as you can see from the comments

DW told me she was falling for me before we even got together.
In fairness though, we'd been friends for a few years - online only though.

Been together 6 years now and very much in love.

Could someone explain the Karachi reference here please?

I assumed they were being cheeky and suggesting that it was an arranged marriage.

Ah, ok, thanks.
Hilarious! (not)