Nothing out there for abused women

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Just that really,
iv been with dh for 14 years,2 dc’s,
he’s always had moments of saying vile things,not speaking to me for days,
things are bad,really bad,
he’s made it clear he’s all ready texting someone else,
he’s taken my rings,
council won’t help as I would be making myself intentionally homeless,
cant afford to private rent,
no friends or family,
im drowning.

Phone women aid they will help and guide you through this .

You are not the first woman this has happened to unfortunately.

Fortunately, there is support for you.

Do not listen to what he tells you. He wants you to feel stuck and powerless.

Phone Women's Aid today and be completely honest with them. Do it from a work phone.

Tell your manager at work.

You don't need the police to arrest him in order to be rehoused under the law that relates to people fleeing domestic violence. If the council housing department said you would be intentionally homeless they were wrong. The only evidence you need is accessing support from your local domestic abuse service who can help you through all of this. Can you google who they are and call them?

Women's Aid / Refuge and the Police. You must talk to outside Agencies. Open up to your work colleagues. There is help available but you have to engage with it. It can be daunting and scary to make the first step, but think of it as the start of you changing your life fir the better.

If you are married, regardless of what your husband says, you are entitled to 50% of the marital assets. Don't believe anything he says, he'll tell you black is white if it keeps you in line.

You can do this.

OP sending you strength.

There is support, it's not the easiest to access because it's in demand. Workers have skills experience and passion.

Please keep trying. Don't worry about proof or charges or next steps. Just talk to someone at Refuge or Women's Aid. Google search results will vary and possibly give you a wrong impression.

There's a nice post Here from a poster in your position last year.

I do t know if anyone else has said it but make sure he doesn’t see this thread.
Every local authority should have a domestic violence/abuse team. Yours will too. Go onto your council website get the number for social services and call them, they’re sometimes called ‘the front door team’. They will help as your children are at risk here too, do this today. People WILL help. Please don’t give up, you will get through this.

Call the police from work, tell your manager and ask for help. They will be able to come to you at work. He’s going to kill you if you don’t do anything

Call up refuge and set up a separate bank account and have your wages paid directly into there. Put your documents together somewhere safe.

Wow I was hoping this would have resolved before I got to the end please, please please contact Womens Aid. They will give you shelter and food and everything you need.

OP I had this sort of thing happen to me. My first act was to chat to Women's Aid online. It's silent, just chatting by typing, and it leaves no trace on your phone if you do it in 'private mode'. They know everything and their job is to help women in your situation.