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When you love them so much you feel like you could burst with it! Beyond the honeymoon...

69 replies

ThisMustBeMyDream · 17/02/2025 18:35

Does anyone else feel the same? I've been with my DP for 7.5 years, and I knew the moment I met him that he was the one for me. He appeared to feel the same - and made it quite clear! Over 7 years later, we are about to marry. I'm honestly as giddy about him as I was in those first flushes of romance. I fantasise about him all the time. Lust after him. Think he's the best thing since sliced bread basically. He's witty, intelligent, kind (oh, so so so kind, and so gentle and caring) and there's not a bad bone in his body. There is no one I'd rather spend my time with. I can't get enough of him! My sex drive at 40 is still high as it was when younger. Even though in my mid 20s it seemed to dwindle before we met. It was on fire in my 30's!
I just feel like I've won the jackpot with him. He makes me feel loved and like he only has eyes for me. If I'd known in my 20's what I know now, I'd have waited for however long it took to meet him. I really hope that others feel this way too - please tell me you do! Everyone said wait for the honeymoon phase to go... but it just hasn't!
Please share your happy stories as it feels no one shares this kind of thing in real life!

OP posts:
livvymc · 18/02/2025 01:19

Lifeofasd1 · 18/02/2025 00:48

Dont get married then.
Sorry to be brutal.
What you are describing is everyone's feelings their
Partners while thoughts of married life and being his wife are at the back of ur mind.
Sorry i know people wont be honest here,
Someone needs to tell you it all changes

What a shitty miserable post!!
Just because that seemingly happened to you, doesn’t mean it happens to everyone, why do you assume you’re the authority on what happens when EVERYONE gets married?! Ridiculous post

Chocoholicnightmare · 18/02/2025 01:20

I can totally relate! Been with my DP about 5 years, don't live together as we both have a teenager. I think perhaps the honeymoon period is still happening bc we don't live together, but I'm crazy about him and I have to stop myself staring at him! I can't believe my luck to be with someone so funny, clever, kind and handsome! He's not overly soppy, which is probably a good job, so I reign it in a bit!

ImAChangeling · 18/02/2025 01:24

Can relate.

My partner is my soul mate, ten years in. Our looks have both faded somewhat but we still fancy one another like crazy.

LittleGlowingOblong · 18/02/2025 01:24

I would love to find such happiness! Can I ask - were your parents also happily married, @ThisMustBeMyDream ? I think my parents’ marriage just put the fear into me.

Ph3 · 18/02/2025 01:26

I have been married for almost 20 years, 3 kids, 2 international moves and I still think I’m the luckiest girl. He’s always there for me. M He tells me he’s the luckiest too. But once a week I just want to whack him around the head when he doesn’t take the bins out. 🤣

BraverThanTheyThink · 18/02/2025 02:29

Missj25 · 17/02/2025 19:40

Tinder WOW !!!!
That’s cool, how in love ye Are ☺️…
I’m 49 & still haven’t found my forever partner , I hope I do 🤞& have your story to tell ….
On dating App , Fuck sake it’s like a jungle 😂😂
Congratulations on your Wedding 🙌 x

No one can see the future, but I met my forever partner at 47.

Twenty plus years later, we are not only still loved up, but it's always evolving and we talk about anything and everything.

It feels comfortably familiar, but at the same time it feels "fresh".

We talk about how we met, and recall loads of landmark moments that have given us each, a deeper understanding of ourselves and each other.

We still have ambitions and plans.

We can make each other laugh to the extent that our stomachs can ache with hilarity.

At my age, I've experienced both good and bad in my past relationships, and I've witnessed other couples relationships.

Having done so, I feel very fortunate to be with someone who loves and appreciates me.

It feels such a privilege to share a positive relationship, and even after all this time, I still sometimes feel the need to pinch myself to realise it's not a dream, and this seemingly rare happiness is mine and his to enjoy forever.

I honestly believe it's never too late to find the person you feel you're meant to be with-and they feel that about you too.

When I was in my twenties, I was told I'd never find what I was searching for, as it seemed to them, I was wanting a romance novel outcome, and that "real life" wasn't like that.

Although I felt squashed by that, I'm so happy that my beliefs held true, I kept my faith that "it" would happen.

Keep to your standards and boundaries, don't "settle" for anything less.

An "okay"relationship is not fair on either partner.

I'm keeping my fingers crossed that you too, keep the faith.

BraverThanTheyThink · 18/02/2025 02:33

ViciousCurrentBun · 17/02/2025 19:47

I have been with DH for 28 years and whilst calmer than yourself feel a deep abiding love that I had no idea could exist.

Aww, that's so lovely.
Congratulations to you, not for the length of your relationship, but for the quality.
Cheers to the next 28 years 🥂

BraverThanTheyThink · 18/02/2025 02:43

PrawnofthePatriarchy · 17/02/2025 20:24

My DH died after 17 years together, when the kids were still at primary school. I still feel really lucky to have had a truly happy marriage. OK, it was cut short but lots of people never find that true love. He was a lovely, funny, sexy guy and kind to the bone. I'm grateful to have had him.

See - look what you've done now.
I don't cry easily, but you have touched me deeply.

I'm so glad you've experienced such a beautiful relationship.

That time you spent with him was way less than you may have imagined, but my goodness, that shared love has sustained you through the subsequent years.

I am so sorry that it was only 17 years, but in terms of quality, you can multiply that number many times.

You can truly say that you met your soulmate. 🥰

Missj25 · 18/02/2025 07:29

Awe , thankyou so much , BraverThanTheyThink x
Oh I have to say , I often think to myself , this will never happen for me , that sometimes people are supposed to go it alone ..
I’m single since I was 39 ..
I experienced mostly not good relationships , I’ll be honest ..
I always went for the wrong guy 🤷🏻‍♀️, it’s like I’m all grown up now & realise exactly the man I want to be with , and how I am supposed to be treated ,& trust me when I say , I will never ever settle..
I want it to be completely right ..

You have a lovely story… 🥰
May you & your partner enjoy many more years together. X

rivalsbinge · 18/02/2025 07:32

That's so lovely, in my case no I don't feel like that about my DP, but then I never have about any man, so I suspect that's a me thing!

Missj25 · 18/02/2025 09:35

Oh & BraverThanYouThink , how did you meet your partner ?

Lurkingandlearning · 18/02/2025 10:51

UpMyself · 17/02/2025 19:35

The person you love is who you think he is, who he really is might be different.

😂😂or who she thinks he is might be who he really is.

anonhop · 18/02/2025 11:04

I feel the same about my DH. Together 5 years. Just keeps growing even after major life problems, baby etc. he rlly is just the most amazing man of my dreams!!

Everyone on MN moans about men/ will tell you it won't last. It's a shame everyone can't experience what we have! Yours sounds wonderful. Enjoy him & don't listen!

UpMyself · 18/02/2025 11:22

@Lurkingandlearning , but it's true. It shows that OP is a kind, warm and loving person. Her fiance probably is too.

Letmehaveabloodyusernameplease · 18/02/2025 11:29

What a lovely thread ❤️

WhatIsCorndogs · 18/02/2025 12:11

We are only just 5 years together but I feel the same! Meeting my husband was one of the best things that ever happened to me and I love him so much. I admire him so much, he's so capable and intelligent, he's not so great at emotional stuff but I love him for his stoicism. He keeps me grounded when I'm emotional and we just compliment each other perfectly. We love to do the same things and we always have so much fun together. I've never laughed at much as I have since I met him. What a lovely thread this is!!

LifeHasBegunAgain · 18/02/2025 18:52

I never used to believe people when they said things like this. I didn't ever really feel like my this about my husband. Then I met my current partner and suddenly I got it! We've only been together for two years but it is already so different. I guess it might change but we've also spoken about how we will actively work to keep the fun and excitement and not take this for granted.

financialcareerstuff · 18/02/2025 19:12

7 years in, and it is literally three or four times more wonderful, and stronger connection than anything I've ever experienced before..... and my last one wasn't bad.

I am grateful every day that we found each other and I know he is too.

RitaFromTheRanch · 18/02/2025 19:36

30 years here and I still get butterflies when he gives me the wink. He's honestly perfect.

I don't tell anyone in RL as I don't want to sound like a smug cunt but yep, same here OP. Aren't we lucky?

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