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When you love them so much you feel like you could burst with it! Beyond the honeymoon...

69 replies

ThisMustBeMyDream · 17/02/2025 18:35

Does anyone else feel the same? I've been with my DP for 7.5 years, and I knew the moment I met him that he was the one for me. He appeared to feel the same - and made it quite clear! Over 7 years later, we are about to marry. I'm honestly as giddy about him as I was in those first flushes of romance. I fantasise about him all the time. Lust after him. Think he's the best thing since sliced bread basically. He's witty, intelligent, kind (oh, so so so kind, and so gentle and caring) and there's not a bad bone in his body. There is no one I'd rather spend my time with. I can't get enough of him! My sex drive at 40 is still high as it was when younger. Even though in my mid 20s it seemed to dwindle before we met. It was on fire in my 30's!
I just feel like I've won the jackpot with him. He makes me feel loved and like he only has eyes for me. If I'd known in my 20's what I know now, I'd have waited for however long it took to meet him. I really hope that others feel this way too - please tell me you do! Everyone said wait for the honeymoon phase to go... but it just hasn't!
Please share your happy stories as it feels no one shares this kind of thing in real life!

OP posts:
Ladyof2025 · 17/02/2025 19:54

Having read hundreds of threads on here about horrible, abusive, gaslighting, narcissistic, irresponsible, selfish men it is thoroughly heartwarming to hear that there are decent men out there worthy of our love.

SantasLargerHelper · 17/02/2025 19:54

I'm the same and we were Tinder as well. I'm 55, feel like i have finally met my soul mate.

RosesAndHellebores · 17/02/2025 19:56

Yep. Married for 34 years, together for over 36 perhaps not as physical as it once was but hey, we are starting to get on a bit.

Iwantmybed · 17/02/2025 20:00

I've been with DH for 26yrs, we had that giddy obsession when we met in our teens and early 20s. After we moved into together, it developed into something deeper, a loving companionship. He's my person and gets me 100%, he's my best friend and we have love and respect. Don't argue, sometimes disagree though. The sex is getting better, decades later. We don't kiss and cuddle much, I'm not a tactile person. We've been a solid team parenting our kids. It works for us and I can see us growing old together.

Sosad1234 · 17/02/2025 20:10

This is just so lovely to read 🥰 they’re not all bad, so it seems.

I’m in the same boat. 8 years, 2 kids, we’ve been through a difficult few years with health and legal issues but thankfully things seem to be on the up. He is the best of men and I thank my lucky stars every single day that he’s the father of my children and the love of my life.

iwentjasonwaterfalls · 17/02/2025 20:12

The only person I love more than my DH is our DD. He's my soulmate, we've come through so much together and he's helped me through far more than he ever should have had to (brain tumour diagnosis, epilepsy, all the breakdowns and crying that comes with those things!) and he never, ever complains.

I absolutely adore him.

Resilience · 17/02/2025 20:13

Aw, this is lovely.

I wouldn't say I'm like that with DH or he about me. We very much see each other's flaws but have learned to accept and work with them. With that has come a certainty about each other that isn't as giddy but is nonetheless wonderful and we are very happy. It gets better with age, too.

Here's to you maintaining that happiness! Smile

scandalo · 17/02/2025 20:14

I feel the same! 16 years in, still lights up the room for me when he walks in.

Ruby0707 · 17/02/2025 20:16

Sickly sweet but lovely to read! Makes a change.

Achyarms · 17/02/2025 20:23

Wow you guys are so lucky!

sometimes I wish my husband didn’t exist and when I say sometimes I mean like every other day

PrawnofthePatriarchy · 17/02/2025 20:24

My DH died after 17 years together, when the kids were still at primary school. I still feel really lucky to have had a truly happy marriage. OK, it was cut short but lots of people never find that true love. He was a lovely, funny, sexy guy and kind to the bone. I'm grateful to have had him.

2025willbemytime · 17/02/2025 20:37

Achyarms · 17/02/2025 20:23

Wow you guys are so lucky!

sometimes I wish my husband didn’t exist and when I say sometimes I mean like every other day

Then do right by him and leave.

RedPlumJam · 17/02/2025 20:45

Yes. My DH and I met and became pregnant straight away. Oops. Took a massive risk, loads of judgement (of me) from people, but as it turns out he is the love of my life. Been together 12 years, married and have two beautiful DCs. He is the kindest most handsome and smart man in the world, great intimate life. I often pinch myself.

MaidOfSteel · 17/02/2025 20:45

Every day I thank my lucky stars for my wonderful husband. I couldn’t have asked for better. And he’s still mad about me, too. I never thought any man would love me, and I truly believed that I wasn’t capable of love. He is precious to me.

MaryGreenhill · 17/02/2025 20:47

Known mine for 46 years and still adore him and he me . I knew the moment l saw him .

Coralreef7 · 17/02/2025 20:54

Mine is a man I genuinely respect and adore with all my heart, from the day I met him, I felt something, and it rapidly grew stronger. With him I could share everything and he could do the same. We started slowly and we left the physical stuff until later even though we both wanted that. We focused on really knowing each other. I feel lucky every day. I’ve seen his scars and his negatives and he’s seen mine, and we love each other in a way I didn’t think existed

WingingItSince1973 · 17/02/2025 21:16

I've been married 28 years and I do still feel like this about dh. Yes he annoys me at times and we've been through some immense tough times but he is the most honest patient person I know. I love being with him. We still have fun. I have chronic illness now and he will come home from a manual job and make dinner on the days I'm hindered by pain. He's put up with me and the kids bringing home all sorts of animals over the years from chickens to horses. It's lovely to hear of other relationships the same ❤️

Waitingfordoggo · 17/02/2025 23:18

Iwantmybed · 17/02/2025 20:00

I've been with DH for 26yrs, we had that giddy obsession when we met in our teens and early 20s. After we moved into together, it developed into something deeper, a loving companionship. He's my person and gets me 100%, he's my best friend and we have love and respect. Don't argue, sometimes disagree though. The sex is getting better, decades later. We don't kiss and cuddle much, I'm not a tactile person. We've been a solid team parenting our kids. It works for us and I can see us growing old together.

I could have written almost exactly this! Been with my DH 27 years. Started out together in late teens/early 20s. We were like rabbits for the first few years. Managed to break the bed in his student house 😂

Now we're very much middle aged and it's a calmer, quieter love, but it's wonderful. We laugh a lot every day. There is never any shouting. He is my person; my best friend.

Waitingfordoggo · 17/02/2025 23:20

@PrawnofthePatriarchy I'm sorry for your loss- he sounds lovely. But I'm glad you got to have that time together.

Hairyesterdaygonetoday · 17/02/2025 23:50

UpMyself · 17/02/2025 19:35

The person you love is who you think he is, who he really is might be different.

????
They’ve been together 7 years. She’s probably got a fairly good idea who he is!

alwaysdeleteyourcookies · 17/02/2025 23:51

UpMyself · 17/02/2025 19:35

The person you love is who you think he is, who he really is might be different.

Was that necessary? Let people be happy.

Hairyesterdaygonetoday · 17/02/2025 23:56

DH and I have been together over 20 years. We still hug when we squeeze past each other in our small kitchen, snuggle together on the sofa, and frequently drop a kiss on the other’s head when they’re sitting down. We got together in our 40s and we don’t want to waste any more time!

H112 · 18/02/2025 00:32

Hope this lasts for me too we're obsessed with each other

Delighted for you op you found a good one

Lifeofasd1 · 18/02/2025 00:48

Dont get married then.
Sorry to be brutal.
What you are describing is everyone's feelings their
Partners while thoughts of married life and being his wife are at the back of ur mind.
Sorry i know people wont be honest here,
Someone needs to tell you it all changes

Unredchat · 18/02/2025 01:14

I've never felt like this about one person. I've felt parts of it about different people. I'm not sure I'd like to feel so consumed with feelings for one person. It would jeopardise my independence which I value. Luckily right now I have a well resourced partner who is a great lover!