Sexless Marriage!!! When is it enough?

[Scoobydoo1]

Sexless marriage. When we first me like many we had sex often and then with the kids this filtered to once a month. For some time it then extended more like 2/3 times a year. Now we haven’t had sex for over a year and every time we plan something, like go away (without kids) or date night he is eager tells me everything he is going to do etc etc and then boom. My neck hurts, my knee hurts or something else and won’t happen. I’m sick of being rejected! I feel hurt constantly by this and yes I have told him My feelings. We never used to argue (I mean never if you believe it) now that’s all we seem to do is bicker. I believe it’s due tot the lack of intimacy. I don’t think the bickering stops the sex, that’s what people use as an excuse again.

Whats bizarre? Your total lack of respect for age difference and how things can still work? Or your disregard for someone’s feelings?

I work this shift pattern week on week off. Its absolutely exhausting. Don't underestimate how tired he probably is. Sounds like you have a lot going on at home too. Maybe stop getting angry . It's another demand on him.

Yes I would say the exact same to a man posting

Perhaps? We have brought viagra in the past for long sessions. At that time just to make it all a lot more intense and all night. Now,
who knows? Another discussion topic, which I can assure will definitely burst his bubble

also they are ment to help their partner more, based on other threads

OP, you have my sympathies. It's tough to be in a sexless marriage and to not understand why you are being denied sex.

Your husband may well have a pornography addiction. You mentioned that he has consumed a lot of pornography over the last sexless 12 months - perhaps he has been doing so for an extended period of time?

Excessive pornography consumption leads to men no longer finding flesh and blood women in person arousing, and does great damage to their marriages.

If he loves you, lusts after you, and wants to make the marriage work as he says it does, this should be fixable within a number of weeks - as long as he commits to a complete stop with pornography AND a complete stop with masturbation. He needs to detox his arousal mechanism from voyeurism and convert that back to in person intimacy.

If he does this, he should be back in bed with you before you know it. Failing that, professional therapy may well be required.

This implies that as long as something is under 10% it doesn't matter. Doing the dishes is under 10%, giving a cuddle now and then is under 10%.

Would you stay if someone never did the dishes?

My point was the grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence. You only have to read the numerous modern dating, family breakup, single living finances threads on here to see you really need to look at the big picture to weigh up things before taking a possible decision to end a relationship.