This is a relationship/family that is unhealthy enmeshed. Sister has often crossed boundaries with me, telling me when and when she thinks I should get married, asked why I don't post photos of my partner, just generally got involved and given her unwanted not-relevant to anybody unimportant opinion when it wasn't asked for.
Most recently, I have asked partner to remove her from having his permanent live location (some of you may remember the post). Having someone watch where i am when i am with my fiance at all times makes me really uncomfortable and its not common where i come from. to me, its an invasion of privacy but husband has refused to remove it but said he will turn it off when we go and do something together. my main concern was that we are due to start therapy and i didnt want him/his entire family knowing we are going to pre marital counselling.
last night, before our first session we had been arguing and he had to pop to his sisters house. he came home and told me he told her he hates his life, and we are going to therapy tonight. i am distraight, why? because previously i have seen text msgs on this sister and my fiance mocking me/being disrespectful/b1tching about me, i called her out on it and said she was being two faced. I have every right to think last night was the same just verbally. she does not offer any good advice, but instead will listen and just make the situation worse. now i can imagine she will be asking how our private couples therapy is going?! i am SO SO livid and angry, i cannot and will not be in a relationship where there is zero boundaries, no loyalty to your partner and complete disrespect to how i feel. am i being ott?