I am seeking geunine advice from anyone else who has been in a similar position - not judgemental opinions please. I've been having an affair with someone for around 18 months (he's married, I'm engaged) and it's been great until now. I think my partner suspects something, even though we have been careful. What do I do? Cut all contact with my lover? Cool things for a while? I should say that is isn't a purely physical relationship - we have talked about a future together, and the fact that we both feel we are with the wrong people. I feel guilty for what's been going on of course, but doesn't everyone deserve to be happy in our short time here? Helpful advice only please, TIA.