My boyfriend and I have been together for over three years, and there's a pattern I’ve noticed whenever he gets frustrated with me—he tends to tell me to "p** off" or calls me names if I’m annoying him. Usually, I try to brush it off, but today I just couldn’t anymore.
Here’s the situation: Our electricity tripped, so we had to check each plug one by one. I started the process, but then he took over, and I stayed at the box to watch the switches. I kept asking him which switches he was flipping and whether he was following the electrician’s instructions, but he didn’t answer. I started getting frustrated because he wasn’t responding, so I went into the other room to ask him again. I asked if he was doing things the way we were told, and when he ignored me again, I snapped and called him out for acting like an a** hole.
Now, I know I lost my temper, and I’m not saying I handled it well, but being ignored like that really bothered me—especially because he knows that’s something I can’t stand. That’s when things escalated. He called me a b, told me to p off, and used other hurtful names. I never called him anything like that. I tried to explain why I reacted the way I did, but he just kept saying hurtful things. I’m owning up to the fact that I lost my cool, but his words really cut deep.
I’ve apologized to him, but he hasn’t apologized to me, and it’s been weighing on me.