Online dating question - What would you say if a man did this?

[mom2daisypie]

I'll start by saying I'm not looking to get into a serious relationship at the moment. I'm embracing my newly single status and have decided that as part of rebuilding my confidence and faith in humanity, I'm going to keep an open mind, and dip my toe very cautiously into chatting to new people. I joined the free Facebook dating section out of curiosity and was pleasantly surprised that despite my initial reservations, there were actually a few people who I found funny, interesting and attractive. I'd been chatting to one guy for a few days via FB dating when he asked if I'd mind giving him my number so we could use WhatsApp instead. I agreed and we were texting daily for about a week. We have the exact same sense of humour and really seemed to hit it off. I was honest about not being sure when I'd be ready for a serious relationship again and he agreed that he's in a very similar place right now, so we continued to make each other laugh and give each other a glimpse into our daily lives.

He asked whether I'd consider meeting for a coffee and I said I wasn't sure. A few days later (Tuesday just gone) he asked if I'd given it any more thought and I decided what harm can a coffee do. We live 2 hours apart and he offered to drive over nearer me. We chose a place and time. This Sunday at 2pm. He said he was really looking forward to meeting me, even if we decide to be friends, he's enjoyed our chats and thanked me.

I heard nothing more. Radio silence. So 4 days passed. In that time I've been assuming it's not happening and have been feeling mixed about it, as up until the date was arranged we'd spoken daily and the last thing I need in my life is a man who sends mixed signals.
This evening he finally text me saying "How are you feeling about tomorrow? all still ok?".

I'm unsure whether to mention the fact theres been silence for 4 days and that I wasn't sure whether the coffee was still happening or give him the benefit of the doubt and not overreact? I know some people don't feel the need to message daily but we'd spoken daily up until arranging the date?

I'm very rusty when it comes to dating so any thoughts, positive or negative would be appreciated.

That’s a result. It may not have resulted in a big romance, but it’s valuable experience imo.

you can now check that on off and find someone else.

and agree with pps who say meeting in person is the only way to know for certain if there’s chemistry.

I think, as PPs have said, there's usually a lot of chat to check if it's worth meeting, then people slow it down once something is arranged. But I'd be happy with a message the day before to confirm, otherwise I get worried. I may well be bad like this too, I have ADHD and have a tendency to put things off then forget, so I can be bad at replying.

My first instinct was to think, yes go for coffee, it’s just coffee and at least then you can judge his body language more easily. But the question he asked in terms of how are you feeling about tomorrow, suggests to me that he is a little uncertain himself and was almost leaving the door open for you to say that you were also feeling nervous and perhaps having second thoughts? I may be overthinking this but as I said, It’s only coffee, so go and judge him in person. As he lives two hours away, it’s an easy one to drop if you find things don’t feel right. Trust your gut. Good luck.

The date took place already!