Is it my stuff? Because if it's mine I'm burning it

[Drowningincokezero]

I have a new exBF as of this morning since I've found him sexting another woman. He was all set to move in and has filled my house with his furniture, tools and other stuff in advance. It's all excess to my requirements - the plan was to sell it on, just store it for now.
He now wants it back since I've told him this morning that we're over, but I really feel like I owe him no favours. I've so far said that he's welcome to it but neither he nor his family members are welcome at the house. To be honest I'm feeling really proud of how strong I'm being. Seeing any one of them, or even more so him, would crush me. I'm expecting him to arrange for a neutral person to collect it at some point.
But I really want to take scissors to his clothes, throw water over his artwork, or even burn the whole lot! Maybe it's enough just to get this out there in written form, but I really don't want to take this lying down. He's taken me for an absolute fool. The typical mistaking my kindness for weakness and the anger in me wants to show him how wrong he was. So far I've acted with dignity throughout and know that I'm better off without him. But man, the urge is strong... What would you do?

He's scum, OP, but don't let your anger get you into legal or financial difficulties.

Not only can you not deliberately damage it, my understanding is that you are obliged to take reasonable care of it under the interference with goods act. So putting it outside for him to collect and leaving it there, or putting it in a damp garage where damage could reasonably be foreseen would leave you open to him suing you for any loss he suffers.

What you can do (check with Citizen's Advice Bureau or some other legal service for exactly how to do this) is send him a notice telling him it needs to be collected within a reasonable timeframe (probably ~4 weeks since it's a lot of stuff) and telling him how to arrange pick up (which must be reasonable - if you offer him a two hour slot on one day and aren't flexible, that probably won't be considered reasonable) and that if it is not collected in that time you will assume it has been abandoned and dispose of it yourself.

Well he’s lost out cos he doesn’t get to live with you. He might enjoy sexting or whatever else it is he’s been doing but it was worth far less than your relationship. At the least put his stuff out for collection asap cos it isn’t fair to have to be around it all

ooh I have a small male dog that does like to have little accidents i.e. cock his back leg up against things, do you have any friends who may have similar

Don’t let him come and get it over time. Let him know in writing that he has to collect everything by a particular date or it will be left outside. Make sure you change the locks. Let him be inconvenienced, not you.

That's what I did too! I really enjoyed it 😊

Let him come and get it at a set time but don't be there. Have a friend or family be there if possible. Then move on.